#thestyleaesthete

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Self expression. We would be lost without it. Communicating my mood on a day to day basis through what I wear is something I love to do. Cultivating my sense of style through music, poetry, books, life, art. Some days I dress like a completely different person although it’s still me- like the opposite end of the spectrum of who I am. xx The Style Aesthete #TheStyleAesthete #TheStyleAestheteJournals (at Shanghai) https://www.instagram.com/p/B5uLIHnB40V/?igshid=3d5qbhxirgu1

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in the wistful charms of my Taurean dreams tender touches make me cry poetry by moi xx The Style Aesthete #TheStyleAesthete #TheStyleAestheteJournals https://www.instagram.com/p/B5t8jGtBqfW/?igshid=wlh9n8kx8rbg

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I love me some giggle water 🍸 xx The Style Aesthete #TheStyleAesthete (at 1920's) https://www.instagram.com/p/B5Z2lcwhc1W/?igshid=lxx4wp4f7xrn

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“what do i do if she kisses me?” “kiss her back. “ok but why her back?” #TheStyleAesthete https://www.instagram.com/p/B5NAQ8xB8qB/?igshid=2dlpurmtoqq1

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Drew this back in June. More like scribbled but it turned out pretty good. xx The Style Aesthete #TheStyleAesthete https://www.instagram.com/p/B5CLAZ-BlOU/?igshid=wbswi4uo4271

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Self care is not something you can “achieve,” it’s an ongoing practice. I’ve had to rediscover self care as a vital thing in life that’ll solve many of the worries I have and not just a “cute” thing to do. I guess I thought I was good at it so I didn’t need to “get better” at it anymore but I was wrong. Self care will not only take care of the state that you are presently in but also take care of the child in all of us who didn’t get enough love and attention when we were little. Don’t let that child die because if you do, it’s like letting a part of you whither. I thought I could be “done” with self care and be “at the end of the journey” and let other people take care of me in an external way if that makes sense. Turns out I am still on my journey and always will be. You can’t just finish loving someone and expect it to last. We all need to be constantly nurtured. We all need to be our own: big sister, little sister, parent, hero, confidante, mentor, life coach, teacher, friend, and lover ♥️ xx The Style Aesthete #TheStyleAesthete #TheStyleAestheteJournals (at Self Discovery) https://www.instagram.com/p/B4_8alEh1Zo/?igshid=121pl1ec2kvh3

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An excerpt from my latest blog post: In reality, love is rarely aligns with what we imagine. Rom-coms are just the brain-child of our fantasies about love. Love in real life is hard and takes work. It is either like this soft, tender thing that needs nurturing or a passionate, burning flame. I don’t think a person can fully love another or treat another person in the right way unless they love themselves. So many people rush into love because they think that’s what they’re supposed to do but it ends up working against them. You can’t expect somebody else to love you if you neglect yourself. I think love is not two or more people completing each other but rather individuals coming together to support each other in their own self discovery. Link in bio for full post. xx The Style Aesthete #TheStyleAesthete #TheStyleAestheteJournals (at The Bund) https://www.instagram.com/p/B43-0dVhZor/?igshid=npydlbtqwf2b

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Mood 🖤 xx The Style Aesthete #TheStyleAesthete https://www.instagram.com/p/B4wmCT6BRHb/?igshid=j6ksnut0uuc2