On Tumblr User Thewingsofliberty [EDIT: HIS NEW BLOG IS STUDYOFTHEINFINITE]
Please take the time to read this. I have not spoken about this issue for four months and I desperately need to speak about it. Warnings for #abuse, #gaslighting, #self harm, #suicide mention, and #suicide attempt under the cut.
EDIT: He has changed blogs, thank you so much for the tip-off. His main blog is studyoftheinfinite, his pokemon blog is megabulbapedia, his homestuck blog is asofterhomestuck, he has a philosophy blog here, and his Google Plus account is here.
We started dating last August, until just two weeks later, he said to me that he couldn't date me anymore because his parents said he could not date a non-Christian.
I was devastated that I was viewed like this just because of my lack of religion. I tried to ask for reasonable explanations to this. I researched this so much and tried my absolute hardest to understand, but after about two months of agony, and strict, cruel answers from him, I cut all ties with him.
Thewingsofliberty has said and done all of these things since last August:
He has said before that he is against the "general opinions of Tumblr," which already brought up red flags for me.
During the time that we dated, he was fully aware that I was asexual and sex-repulsed. Despite this, he discussed his "repression of his sexuality" and repeatedly made me uncomfortable.
His responses have been mixed on interreligious relationships. First he said it was just his parents' belief, and then he slowly adopted it as his own as well. He also stated my distress over this "made his faith stronger."
He believes that all non-Christians will go to hell, and accused me of hating Christianity when I thought it sounded like non-Christians were inherently "lesser."
Despite his statements that non-Christians are not "lesser," he still said the words above and believes non-Christian relationships are not as "real" as Christian ones.
He went into great detail about what non-Christians deserve at the end of their lives and made me intensely uncomfortable.
He accused me of being too sensitive when I was distraught by this.
He believes that children and sex are a requirement in marriage.
He has stated that marriage is not mainly about love, a.k.a. divorce is not allowed even if love is not present.
He has stated that divorce is not allowed even if abuse is present.
Throughout those two months he repeatedly made my discomfort and distress all about himself, and used emotional manipulation to make me apologize for my issues with his beliefs even as I was deep in self-hatred and self-harm.
He made posts on his personal blog indirectly attacking me, and complained that he was stuck in a "toxic relationship" and that he was so upset that he was "hurting me," but did nothing to examine his beliefs, painting himself as a victim and that his hatefulness was my fault and not his.
After my first attempt at suicide, he never apologized for this, or for his beliefs. I tried to cut ties with him for a month.
After that month had passed, I contacted him again. He responded in a casual and friendly way, as if everything that had transpired in the past several months was completely off his conscience. Again, he did not apologize for anything he said or did, or for my attempted suicide. After a short talk I blocked him from everything, and attempted suicide for a second time.
Finally, this brings me up to today, four months later. I am saying all of this because I deserve closure on this and I deserve comfort.
To all that read this: please stay away from this user. He is toxic, resorts to emotional manipulation, and made me attempt suicide twice. DO NOT contact him, DO NOT send him messages, DO NOT send him hate. Just know these things, and avoid him.
To thewingsofliberty, if you do read this: I am never going to speak with you again. Do not attempt to contact me. You are absolutely not worth my time anymore.
thewingsofliberty replied to your post: i almost have a box full of deino because im...
fair warning: a friend of mine who’s been shiny hunting lately has yet to get something in fewer than 10 boxes full from breeding. :s
UNLESS you’re doing the shiny chaining thing. in which case carry on, and good luck!
Im trying to got one using the Masuda method! i know it can take a while and a lot of eggs yea hehe, but everytime im bored ill just hatch some eggs and then maybe one day ill be lucky! vuv i already have two in game i got from fish chaining!
