A strained relationship cannot be changed by 'love' or 'effort'.
Almost every relationship, whether in the family or at work, has underlying 'interests' and 'power relationships' at its core. It is even more important to have this perspective in your close relationships.
'If you work hard, one day your efforts will pay off.' Or 'As long as you change, things will get better.'
The serious and hard-working a person is, the more likely they are to assume so. However, no matter how hard you try, relationships are more often not redeemed. In particular, family problems can lead to an impasse if you try to forcefully end them with compassion and love.
First step away from thinking that a strained relationship can be managed by your own efforts and love. Whether it is a family member, romantic partner or friend, regardless of age, gender, occupation or 'compassion', you are to look at the person with a sober mind.
Without such training, it is impossible to judge the situation appropriately.
From there, can you manage those relationships on your own or not? Is there room to change the framework? Or whether to sever the relationship. You have to think cool.
An important perspective at this point is to consider that the basis of relationships in any group, from the family to the state, is politics.In other words, "interests" and "power relations" underlie all human relationships.
You have to look at that properly. If you don't, you will not be able to make a correct assessment of the situation. You can't find solutions within your closed self, ignoring your relationships with others. Alternatively, only a one-sided solution will emerge.
From next month, we will start talking about specific ways to stop struggling with memory and see your problems accurately. Many of these are techniques and ideas for dealing with emotions. This is because many of the reasons why people fail to recognise situations are due to the way they distance themselves from their emotions.
