Brief reactivation of the ol' book of faces account earlier today, found out the childhood friend who was going to have another kid just had the kid.
And that people who had "CEASEFIRE NOW" as a profile pic for months have different profile pics now, and this month have either made not a single post about the conflict (no "I am worried but hope the ceasefire holds!!!" nothing like that) or it's post after post about evil Israel this evil Israel that, but still nothing about any kind of relief that there may be a ceasefire (the thing everyone was posting about NOW regardless of any consideration for any hostages). Isn't a ceasefire what you wanted most, why so quiet about it now?!
And the middle-aged woman working in childcare who I hadn't seen post anything about the conflict up until now just the last week started posting disinformation with graphic pictures of emaciated children.
And the psytrance fan (yes, psytrance, the music of the Nova festival) who's posting about organizing a "psytrance for Gaza" event. (Not that something like that couldn't be reconciliatory, but without going into detail I can say the language in the post was not.)
And the person I've known over a quarter century who grew up in Native housing (off-reserve supportive housing for Indigenous Canadians) is posting memes about how "Jews aren't really indigenous to Palestine otherwise they wouldn't tear up olive trees" and how do you even start to discuss this.
Another person I've known about as long, posting about "Palestinian guerrillas" with a great big picture of people with their faces covered by keffiyehs and brandishing guns.
I haven't been active on that site in years so if I go back in like now "You're not immune to propaganda even if you are gay, here's sources disproving your goofy-ass memes" I figure it's either just arguments (I do not have the energy for this) or unfriending (and opportunity for communication and understanding on that platform with this person is gone).
Fighting for the sake of fighting doesn't always fix things; if all problems could be solved by yelling at people the world would be different. (I admit, though, over the years I have just gone on the internet and yelled at people. Now it's like I'm not holding myself back from arguing, it's more like it doesn't make sense to.)
Yet "it's too hard" or "it would make things worse" can be excuses to not have to deal with something. But the reality is I don't think I have the energy or even insight to be saying effective things and arguing until burning out helps no one. So I think about watching a while and considering if there are individuals I may be able to reach out to elsewhere, another time.
Disillusioned about those I used to call friends.
People I knew aren't talking about reconciliation or how to make the world better, they are sharing misattributed horrifying images and reveling in hate for a minority, while calling themselves good progressive people, and mocking conservatives for being gullible.
Better to know what they're really like than to not know.
Just knowing this, though, doesn't stop the tide of hate from rising.
And there is so much hate. I find it horrifying (yet a lot of non-Jews seem to not care or not even notice).