5 Questions for Skipping Work Talk
Most of us work at least 40 hours a week, and if you're in an incredibly fast paced city like NY, SF, Seattle, Chicago, London etc..., you may feel even more pressure from societal norms to think, behave, work, and communicate in a certain way. Take for example San Francisco: a youthful, motivated, and hard working city populated with individuals working in highly competitive markets and often times, prone to take risks.
Work becomes a huge part of our week, and when you're around highly motivated and intelligent people, it's hard not to feel passionate about something.
The amount of weight your career has on who you are as a person, is solely up to you.
Think about the last few instances you've had when you met someone new. What does the conversation start off with? Work? Probably - they've already told you what they do, or are at least somewhat elusive about it.
I don't know about you guys,but this makes it hard for me to get to know someone, and begin to develop a genuine friendship.
Sometimes, I want to know what you do, but most times, I want to know you. Work talk is fine, it will come up and it should given how much time we invest in work, but what if we changed it up a bit at the beginning? Let's try skipping the work talk and see what happens.
Try these questions the next time you meet someone new:
How was your weekend? - Broad question, gives you an opportunity to see what type of activities the person likes and perhaps find something in common.
Do you have any fun plans this weekend? - I tend to dislike closed ended questions, so only use this if you have suggestions.
What are your favorite restaurants in the area?
Any suggestions on a good movie out in the theater?
Any thoughts on a good weekend getaway?
By asking some of these open ended questions, you have the opportunity to get to know someone on a deeper level. You can begin to form meaningful conversations and even determine if you have anything in common, thus facilitating either a continuation of your conversation or a halt.
So you're an engineer, marketer, or sales exec... doesn't tell me much. But hey, tell me what you did last weekend, and then we're really talking.