big fucking ace rant, hopefully the last one, here we go
some people have left compelling thoughts on my ace posts (even if I disagree with them) and honestly I wouldn’t even mind having a debate with some of them but
most of them literally have ‘aphobe’ in their usernames like
my dude, I am not even going to waste my time with someone who has soaked their whole IDENTITY in their hatred of me, you’ve already made up your mind so I’m just gonna block you and be done
I don’t like this discourse! I don’t like being angry! I can’t imagine why someone would pride their hatred of a sexuality so much they’d put it in their username, I can never respect someone like that enough to engage them in any form of conversation
and they don’t even want or care about my respect anyway so I guess that works out just fine
aces have done fucking nothing, all we have ever done is stay in our lane, we were welcomed into the LGBT+ community, “the A is for Asexual!” I remember it happening, we were welcomed
this talk about how we shame people who enjoy sex, or how we brute forced our way into somewhere we don’t belong, that shit is such garbage, we have always been tentatively stepping on the sidelines, and I’m sick of that
we were welcomed, we still are welcomed, and I will fight to keep my place here, I will fight even though I HATE fighting, even though I feel bad for upsetting people because the aces and the demis I’m doing this for make it worth it
for every aphobe who comments some toxic garbage I get at least two messages from aces and demis about how much my posts mean to them, and that’s why I’m getting so fucking vocal about this
because I’m not doing this to make people angry, I’m doing this to stand my ground, to defend my stance and defend the people who are afraid to jump into this toxic fucking discourse
and all this junk isn’t new, every sexuality has been through this same struggle, they’ve been through it WORSE, so I can’t BELIEVE it’s still happening now, my LGBT+ friends can’t believe it’s still happening
I’ve been told that I’m a transphobic homophobe who only ‘listens to the people who agree with me’
but like, why are your thoughts more valuable than their’s? why is the opinion of you, a stranger on the internet with 'aphobe’ literally plastered on your username, more valuable to me than the people I love and have grown up with, they know me, they would call me tf out if I did or said something problematic, and they have done so in the past when we were all young and stupid and didn’t know any better
you call me transphobic, tell that to my genderfluid best friend who I did my absolute BEST to support through their entire identity journey, from straight to bisexual to lesbian to straight man to my current genderfluid sometimes-straight-sometimes-lesbian best friend, you don’t dare to call me transphobic when I have given all the love and acceptance I have to him, when I have poured my heart and soul into helping her come to terms with his identity
when he tells me I don’t need her permission to call myself queer I’m going to believe it, because if anyone has the right to judge me it’s him. SHE has the right to judge me and he has judged me worthy to be a part of this community and I am HONOURED
my bisexual sister, who I love with all my heart, who I would DIE for, has seen this same bullshit lumped on her, and when we talked about the ace discourse she was ready to fucking THROW DOWN with anyone who talked shit about my asexuality, because I was always ready to do the same for her when bisexuals were being targeted by these exclusionist assholes
so fuck you if you think I’m going to listen to you Aphobic Stranger on the Internet, your opinion means shit all to me, I have people who know me, people who are 100% REAL with me, to tell me where I belong, and they want me to stand with them
and it would be a fucking INSULT to reject that
