Hi, we don’t know each other, but I used to be a follower of transfemme-shelterdog a few months ago so I witnessed the situation that happened between you two and I’d like to apologise for making assumptions based on a situation I didn’t fully understand.
I had previously made a post vaguing you (an already cowardly move on my part when I should have just tagged you in the first place), and spreading around the misinformation that your followers had targeted pup for no good reason. This was wrong of me, and I was talking on a situation I only knew one side of when I absolutely shouldn’t have. It was irresponsible, and I am genuinely sorry for any damage I caused. Your followers explained your side of the story to me, and I understand that you were defending yourself against transandrophobia and had every right to react in the way that you did, and the criticism against you was simply trying to downplay how you were feeling. How you were treated afterwards was not fair, and I am genuinely sorry for engaging with it through second-hand accounts.
There is no obligation to accept this apology, but it would be extremely cowardly of me to make a public apology on my blog yet not come directly to you as well, because you are the only one who actually deserves the apology. I hope you have a good day, and I genuinely appreciate how much effort you put into standing up for transmascs in the face of an extremely hostile and transandrophobic website, and once again, it was very wrong and irresponsible of me to further that hostility when I had no justifiable reason to do so.
Thank you. I appreciate that you are able to apologize and listen to other perspectives . It is really hard to say sorry when we do something hurtful but it’s even harder to do it publicly . I can tell you have a good future ahead of you
As for the drama about pup: it sucks. I was always nice to pup until that happened and it really shook me and my faith in other trans people . Which is saying a lot because I have been out 15 years.
To see a respected member of the community so gleefully declare that my hurt and suffering and anger are because I’m simply insane, psychotic, and needed to be medicated was incredibly upsetting and disturbing . And then to have so many ppl instantly agree with, rally around pup, and dogpile on me because “crippled peeper was MEAN to a trans woman!!!” Made me seriously think about how often detransitioners are not motivated by fear of isolation but fear of visceral direct abuse and harm from other ppl . And how I dont really hate them for it.
I wish you the best luck with your blog! I agree with the message. I’m glad there’s still people willing to do the hard work.