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Discover practical strategies to improve mental resilience and happiness Mindfulness, self-awareness, and the impact of cognitive distortions.
The Doorway to Your Heart
If people’s thinking is controlled by the sinful self, there is death. But if their thinking is controlled by the Spirit, there is life and peace. Romans 8:6
Your heart is a fertile greenhouse ready to produce good fruit. Your mind is the doorway to your heart—the strategic place where you determine which seeds are sown and which seeds are discarded. The Holy Spirit is ready to help you manage and filter the thoughts that try to enter. He can help you guard your heart.
He stands with you on the threshold. A thought approaches, a questionable thought. Do you throw open the door and let it enter? Of course not. You “fight to capture every thought until it acknowledges the authority of Christ” (2 Cor. 10:5 PHILLIPS). You don’t leave the door unguarded. You stand equipped with handcuffs and leg irons, ready to capture any thought not fit to enter.
- Max Lucado
The time is now to develop these seven core habirts to a more fulfilling life.
How do you get to heaven or nirvana? Little steps. And I'm not talking about some place you go to when you die, but how you are living now and until the time you are not living? It is the little things that you do every day that determines your fate. We tend to focus on the essential practices and events, but we should give equal if not greater attention to the little things we do in the course of our day. How many times did you think ill of someone today? How many times did you have a warm feeling towards a stranger as you were walking down the street? Upon hearing of an unfortunate event that befell someone you know, did get a feeling that you were glad it wasn’t you? Did you even for a brief moment get a tinge of pleasure because of their misfortune? These little steps or small acts determine our overall mental wellbeing.
This is also referred to as Karma. Karma, as I have been taught, is not some being who is keeping score on you. It is the mental impressions you place upon your mind. You must remember that there is someone who is always watching what you do, what you say, and what you think. That person is you. You're always watching, and you're continually placing impressions in your mind. Since the outside world is mainly the projections from your mind, it would be reasonable to assume that your mental state or what is swimming around your mind would have an impact on the world around you. In the Buddhist tradition, they would say that it determines what is occurring and what you experience. Not just your perception of what is happening, but causing it.
I am fascinated by this concept. The double slit experiment in quantum mechanic studies has confirmed many times that the observer in the experiment is the determining factor of what happens to a proton being projected at a double slit. Further, it might explain why two people can be engaged in the same activity yet receive, not just perceive, different results. They receive different results because of the past mental impressions that influenced the results.
The seven habits that would benefit you originate from The Diamond Sutra. Which is the oldest surviving dated printed book in the world (868 A.D.) If you want a life of greater fulfillment and less strain, then you might want to explore these habits to see if they work for you. They are numbered, but they are of equal importance.
1. To see yourself prosper financially, plant the mental imprints by maintaining a generous state of mind towards all beings.
2. To see yourself living in a happy world plant the mental imprints by maintaining an ethical way of life.
3. To see yourself as physically healthy and attractive plant the imprints by refusing to ever get angry.
4. To see yourself as a great leader plant the imprints by taking joy in constructive and helpful actions.
5. To see yourself as someone who has a great focused and steady mind plant the imprints by practicing deep concentration and meditation.
6. To see yourself free from a world where things don’t work the way you want them to plant the imprints by learning the principles of the hidden potential in all things and the principles of mental imprints.
7. To see yourself and others get everything you wish for, then plant the imprints by cultivating an attitude of compassion towards all beings.
Now, these are difficult to do all the time. We spend so much time lost in our thoughts and distracted. I believe the key is to create rituals and habits that allow you do these things without thinking about it. It becomes who you are. I am working on becoming that person. I invite you to do the same. At the very least it would make you a much nicer person to be around.
Until next time,
Rich Decker – Mindful Accord
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MANAGING STRESS: 3 techniques to help you recognize triggers and overcome anxiety
“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” – William James
In our lives, relationships, or careers, we are bound to experience stressful, anxiety-inducing situations. While we now know experiencing some anxiety is good for us (it builds resiliency, it helps you identify and respond to dangerous situations, it motivates you to succeed) we also know there’s an almost inconceivable difference between sufferers of acute and chronic anxiety.
Almost daily we’re faced with stressors like making time to fit in studying for an upcoming test or watching the bus you needed to catch drive off ahead of you. For some people though, these passing stressors turn on the body’s fight-or-flight response, and soon their body is responding to seemingly non-threatening situations in the same way it would on seeing a bear barreling its way.
This is something I have struggled with for years.
Here are three techniques that have helped me, which I try to practice regularly. I hope they’ll help guide you to feel more in control of your emotions and your life (because you ARE in charge).
Ask yourself “Is this in my control?”
This is a tool my therapist gave to me in one of our first sessions. I was drowning in a pool of “what if’s?” that were making me fearful of even leaving the house. She suggested that when I was experiencing an intense increase in my anxiety, like jumping from a 3 to a 7 (1 being low anxiety, 10 being high anxiety) to ask myself if what was creating that anxiety was at all in my control.
How did I put this into practice? Recently, my partner and I got a puppy. Within 24 hours of bringing her home, she went from a seemingly happy and healthy puppy to violently ill. Naturally, we rushed her to the vet where she needed to be kept for treatment and we were slapped with a nearly $1,300 bill. All these questions started racing through my mind—how are we going to afford this? What if they can’t help her? Are we going to have to put her down? You could say my anxiety levels would not have registered on the hypothetical chart.
As we left the veterinary office, feeling overwhelmed and helpless, I decided this was as good a time as any to put this tool to the test. So I asked myself, “Is this in my control?” I came to the quick and comforting realization that while my puppy’s health was not in my control, her care absolutely was. We got her where she needed to be and because of this she had her best chance at a truly happy and healthy life.
Anxiety’s nature is to create worry and unease so by asking yourself, “Is this in my control?” you’re bringing yourself back to the present moment, which is the only moment that matters.
Silently create an affirmation or repeat an encouraging thought
In the last few months I’ve been on a journey of self-discovery when it comes to managing and improving my mental health. One night when I was feeling particularly low, I stumbled across a quote by William Shakespeare that read, “Today is neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so.” Boom, clarity. I use this most days (along with the constant reminders from my partner) to help me acknowledge that in almost all cases, my feelings are my choice.
Another option that I find helpful is asking, “If this was my best friend, my sister, brother or parent feeling this way, what would I be telling them?” You’ll probably come up with a paragraph of wonderful and encouraging things you would want to tell them. Shortening it down to a sentence, repeat it to yourself—over and over and over. Repeat until it becomes second nature, to the point where you don’t have to focus on repeating it as it is just playing in the back of your head… like your very own anthem of encouragement. This will help you be aware of your thoughts in that moment of hyper anxiety. If you can learn your pattern of negative self-talk you can begin to combat it with positives.
Do something for you
“There must be quite a few things that a hot bath won’t cure, but I don’t know many of them.” – Sylvia Plath
What do you love or did you love before this dark cloud seemed to consume you? For me, water is my happy place. Whether it’s swimming, sitting on the beach, listening to the rain or concentrating on the feeling of submerging into a hot bath (filled with bubbles of course), water gives me an instant calm. On the particularly hard nights, I try to make it my mission to get into that bathtub or even just wash some dishes. Feeling that water run over my hands and listening to it pour out of the faucet has a therapeutic effect on me.
I challenge you on your hardest days to find one thing to do for yourself that you (even if it was only sometime in the past) enjoy. Go for a bike ride, read a book, walk your dog, snuggle your cat, go to the gym, bake some brownies. Give yourself permission to do something for you, something you love or even something you just think you could love and then relish the happiness it provides. Even if it’s only a three-minute break from the anxiety that’s plaguing you. Take it, profess appreciation for it and then try it again next time.
One of the most important things you can do for yourself if you’re living with anxiety is to recognize that your anxiety isn’t going to disappear overnight. Overcoming it is not something you’ll be able to do by ignoring it. Take the time to listen to it, interpret it as you will, know that it’s in your control. You can’t eradicate it in an instant but you can manage it—your devotion to managing it however, will be the real key to your success.
Read more on this topic in OVERCOMING ANXIETY: How to handle anxiety disorders»
by Rachel Fortnum
Image: Sad teenager girl looking the rain falling via Shutterstock
Five Thoughts on Thoughts
Thoughts are funny things. They have a deep-engraven mark over against our lives and the way we feel about ourselves and the world around us. Some thoughts are pesky, and lead us to self-doubt, limiting our ability to realize our fullest potentials. Below are a few thoughts. Endurant and managing thoughts is a dexterousness that must be scholarly. There are discrete tools that exist to help you manage them and relate to them in healthy ways.<\p>
1. You are not your thoughts This may seem like a simple chorus, barring it is fundamental to healthy agreeableness management. Our brains are indulge in radio antennae. Depending on the channel to which a radio is set varies the signal that it plays. Warp the channel alters what is heard. Like those antennae, so our brains receive thoughts from the ether. Healthy ear they begins at this place, recognizing that multiple of our thoughts can narrow the gap from places externally ourselves. It is important to recognize that simply cause a thought lands in our headspace, does not excitable it is earthshaking or the top of our time and loving care.<\p>
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5. Chronicle best what is noted as far as you Schema down your goals and what you curiosity from life is one of the most important personal effects you can do. Transforming your thoughts into writing transforms it from something that exists inward the gossamer to man of mark that is physical and self-evident. By writing down the things you want off life, you can easily sort between thoughts that are worthy concerning your dawdle and those that are not. But me notice the thought, say its name. Ourselves can narrate the pesky ones, €sorry, no time for you today.€<\p>
What's new?
This is a new category aimed at sharing with you the useful tools I find on the web. Although they will mainly deal with Human Resources, Management and Personal Development, they can also include diverse topics such as design, well-being, fun facts etc…
Leadership:
Today I recommend taking a look at Arthur Camarazzi’s attempt to write his new Leadership book with the contribution of individual through social networking. Using the pyramid-building industry as a metaphor, he shares a funny story of a manager facing the usual difficulties one can often find in a lifetime- lack of motivation, quality issues. If you are interested you can follow the development of the adventures of Teptep in the Leadership Lessons from the Great Pyramid. I continued to wander and found myself reading the Confessions of a Stupid Kid, interesting short story on how the environment and people treat you will have a great impact at how smart you will feel and in the end, be.
Thought Management:
Earlier in the week I had reorganized my way of using to-do list with the famous and debated Getting Things Done method. I have subscribed to their free 15 days trial and have downloaded every possible documentation to review it; if there is only one thing I have to recommend, it would be their method at managing your tasks on Outlook (and email and calendar). It’s just really simple and prevents you from creating thousands of categories for your different projects, which I have found rather ineffective because they keep on piling up. Have you tried it? What do you think?