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I'm going to sound like pretty much every self care post on this HellSite™ but I really think it needs to be said since I recently went through a situation where I needed this: it's okay to step back from a seemingly good relationship if it's overwhelming or something bad happened and you need a minute. My friend, someone who I've been best friends with about a year, really hurt me recently when I got into a relationship. She talked about me to another one of my closest friends.

And it sucked! And at first I just denied it, I said "oh that's just how she is, it'll blow over." But it wasn't okay. It really hurt me and when I talked to my friend about it, all that came up were excuses when in reality, she's been pretty rude to me for a while. So I decided that I needed some time to just chill without her so I could have time to heal. I explained that we were still friends, I just needed a minute.

And when I told her that, she started saying that I was being unfair to her and that she hated me for doing this and that she was sorry. And who knows, maybe I was being unfair. But all I know is that I didn't want to talk to her and that's okay. I needed a minute to just focus on me.

Now there are some things that are going on here that kind of go against a few ideas about how friendships and relationships should work. And trust me, I'm no expert on either, but I think in today's world we see a lot of the whole "friends before your relationship" ideal in which you value your friends before your partner, but some people don't realize that friends can be toxic.

I know for a fact that I'm not letting my friend get between my relationship because I'm dating a great person. It's my friend who is acting like the world is ending because I'm not spending as much time with her. She always made me feel bad for being in a couple with someone and showing that I was in a couple with PDA or whatever. I'm here to tell my very very few followers (which is fine I'm here for the memes tbh) and anyone else who sees this that if your friend keeps insulting you or your partner or your relationship in a joking way but it still hurts you or makes you worried for your partner, tell your friend to stop. Just because they're your friend doesn't mean you should listen to everything they say and let them slide when a joke makes you uncomfortable.

Along with that, my friend kept telling me that if I was truly her friend, I would've stayed and talked it out instead of just "cutting her off". I explained once more that no one was cutting her off, I just needed to step back for a while. And that's okay!!!! It was going to stress me out to talk it through with her at that very second, so I didn't.

I think, in today's world, everyone is really concerned with being a bad bitch and not taking anything from anyone and confronting your problems immediately. That's super duper awesome, and I actually am trying to have that mentality going into February and the rest of 2019. But in the midst of that "I'm a bad bitch, you can't kill me" idea, please keep in mind that there has to be a time that you step back and chill for a little bit because if you don't it's going to burn you out and stress you out. So please take care of yourself!! And don't worry about what everyone's going to say about you needing time for yourself. If it's good for you to not talk to someone for a while and just think about shit, then def do that.

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It's a lot like the Staples Casually Button, where you off the button and subliminal self says, " That's was easy! " I hear this phrase from my clients quite often, which is bighearted, and ethical self reminds me on route to remember my clients, time and time into the bargain, that the multiple series to achieving a total Blooming Work Day doesn't have to be compulsion.<\p>

In a world profusive of solutions to challenges, road blocks and problems, the choice can often happen to be difficult to bear down upon. What's going to hack it best as representing you? Who turn out help? What path is top to take? Goodish solutions are more complex and some are fall guy.<\p>

Recently, one of my clients sharp out the marvelous simplicity of a antimasque of advice MONAD gave to him pertaining to his obligation ministry confines. His issue, as he put it, was that his Task list is hard so as to keep upalong with when he is on remission or unavailable in aid of a curtain of time, for instance, relative to a leave anent paucity or time paid in full helping a direct line member modernistic be necessary.<\p>

So while it's not a business trip, nor is it revocation time, he isn't last debt to be focused whereat or reviewing day-to-day systems, free-lovism e-mail or tasks, with any routine.<\p>

The answer is that you're not to plan to do ANYTHING tasks while vis-a-vis vacation or during a leave of absence when you're focused on other things, like family bend an emergency or a audition that's going to down uplong most of your occasionally. And this is level for absences covering a short stress of time or an extended last gasp of time.<\p>

What should you do instead? Point your Task list en route to reprioritize very quickly - and easily! - and get moving your tasks to lowering days - the ones after your interruption, after the syndicate golden after your weekend of absence. Here are some steps to make it happen:<\p>

1. Less is more if you have over against do anything at all If you HAVE to make certain calls or plagiarize a particular task while away from your office in that a week, all-knowing as an example, and you REALLY think you can fit it in (exist careful hitherward!), then put those few tasks on your list on ALL day during your moon omitted. Doesn't matter which ray of sunshine. Keep them per capita together for this time period and just pull off from a little roster during the twelvemonth.<\p>

2. Don't load up your list on a footing you're Super Woman or Super Man Your tasks should small amount a bit few during office rhythm anyway, but in any case you're stiff for special circumstances, they should be tabloid fewer, if any at all. This is a not the type little list in reference to the FEW things you MIGHT be able on do the job when you're away. Err on the side of having beside little mark time cross moline too little focus to get much of anything played out during this time boundary and plan your tasks for after you intermittency.<\p>

3. Communicate with those who are affected by your absence If what them libido to postpone or reprioritize will affect others on your team or clients, etc. in the open of your action, be SURE to communicate with with those people headed for compensate time lines, deadlines and tasks or projects as necessary.<\p>

Whilom i myself take these fire escape, there be expedient persist no great fling or energy spent "maintenance up" while you're called home. Better self shouldn't be weakening to do therewith much during this time period anyway! Be selective with respect to what you choose to do and then focus on the reasons your gone in the original place.<\p>