Coming Out Tip #21
Timing is everything.
Location is very important, but timing is one of the more overlooked aspects of a successful coming out. Here are some things to consider.
Firstly, think about the day: sooner or later? Remember not to rush yourself, but it can sometimes be nice to plan ahead because this can sometimes relieve a little anxiety. Certain days may be more available than others, and you want to make sure it is a day where you both will have the time and space you need.
Time of day is also important. One of the most common times is lunchtime: it isn’t right after you wake up, but not in the afternoon or evening where people might be more stressed and tired. Nighttime is one of the worst times, because people’s emotions are more fragile and blown up at night. This can lead to more negative reactions, and you also don’t want to leave it with anyone (including yourself) right before you go to bed. You could also think of a time when you are not in the same place as the other person.
Don’t be afraid to postpone if something comes up or if someone is in a negative mood! Coming out can bring a whole slew of emotions, so if either of you is feeling sad, angry, stressed, or another negative emotion you may want to wait until later.
Trust yourself; you will know when the timing is right!
