#trans isolation

[rottingbiogirl]

I hate trying to find new friends or partners!!

I hate going to events I don’t wanna go to just so I might meet somebody!!

I hate how nobody on dating apps puts anything in their fucking profiles!! (Besides generic shit like “love my 2 dogs!” “I like travelling! 😊”)

I hate that nobody on dating apps ever texts me first even though my bio is FILLED with potential convo starters and things they could ask about!! (I’d love to text first but YOU GIVE ME NOTHING TO WORK WITH!!!! And I am NOT good at continuing after “Whoa, cool hair/clothes!” “Thanks” 😭)

I hate meeting people irl, having a somewhat good time, exchanging contacts, then having a few bland convos and that’s it.

I hate that most queer spaces in my city are gay bars (THAT ARE USUALLY JUST FILLED WITH GAY MEN!! Fuck, at least give me a trans-inclusive lesbian bar, I could force myself to enjoy going to bars for that!!)

“Ooh, just join online communities” - YEAH, I DON’T WANT TO MEET ANOTHER REALLY COOL PERSON WHO LIVES IN A DIFFERENT COUNTRY AND I CAN’T HANG OUT WITH

(Anyone here live in/near Prague? :p)

[rottingbiogirl]

Difference between an unhealthy inability to be alone and healthy and understandable need for love, community and physical affection??

[vent post because I only go to therapy once every two weeks]

I kinda only have one close friend I can hangout with once or twice a week (with an occassional sleepover). And she is amazing, I love her, but I wish I could be around people that understand me and whom I feel close to… every day? Is that bad?

I genuinely enjoy being alone, wouldn’t want to be around people all the time, and I’m honestly REAAALLY picky about who I want to be friends with, so it’s not like I’m just jumping on every opportunity to socialize just to not be alone.

I’m currently in a position where I kinda don’t have a social group because I don’t go to school and I work from home. And I think the issue is I just need to be around people who get me? Physically, not just online! But also loud crowded places are uncomfortable… so the ideal situation would be like a 90’s sitcom deal where all my best friends live in the apartment nextdoor. But that’s not my reality…

Maybe it’s a family issue? But my family is fine. They’re just not zoomer queers who have the same interests as me. Which is… okay? I don’t know, are you meant to just… fulfil your daily need for community quota by hanging out with your parents and potential sibling(s)? That seems… unrealistic?

Is this just gonna be my life now?

I guess I could eventually move in with some queer friends (would be more realistic money-wise too) and then I’d be guaranteed to have some community time every day even if my work or school social group sucks.

I don’t know, I just- can’t tell if these feelings are a normal response to a bad and alienating circumstance or if I just need to work on being even more okay spending so much time alone.

[transmenarecool]

Hey everyone, I know I hardly ever make text posts anymore, but I was wondering if any of you had tips on feeling isolated as a trans person on campus. 

I’ve already tried being apart of anything LGBT related on campus and it’s not working out at all so please don’t suggest that. I live alone, due to not finding a guy I can room with/dealing with multiple suite mates. 

Currently I’m just feeling really isolated my friendships in college seem to do nothing but fall apart. I’m basically the only trans person on my campus and I just feel really, really alone right now. I’ve never been through so many friendships in my life so fast. If anyone has any advice (besides anything LGBT related) please message me, or inbox me whatever you wanna do. 

Oh and I don’t drink or do drugs or any of that stuff so the party scene is totally out fo rme as well, which is just further isolating I know

[punyparker]

If u wanna talk about the importance of being a good guy, hmu.