#transboytips

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hello, and i’m sorry :(

hey guys. it’s been a long while since i’ve posted or answered anything, and i feel so awful for leaving you all hanging like that. i was away from the internet all summer, and have been in a bad place lately, but i feel like i should start helping you all again :)

i’m really sorry for the long absence, but i will be answering asks asap!!!

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So I pretty much look like a lesbian, no hard feelings to lesbians I'm just not a girl, literally all the masculine tip things just make me look like a butch lesbian. Any idea why?

i’ve had the same problem. this may not be any of your fault - you may have a more feminine face. this is unfortunate for transmasc people, but you can work around it!

if you’re trying to look less like a girl (or a butch lesbian), you can avoid wearing form-fitting flannels or snapbacks. this sounds stereotypical, but form-fitting clothes, even when they look more masculine, will accentuate feminity. and with snapbacks - sometimes a hat will make you look more like a girl. i don’t really know why, but i’ve had baseball hats and snapbacks that make me look like a girl with certain outfits.

if the thing drawing back from looking fully masculine isn’t the clothes, try to figure out what out could be. it might just be your facial structure - in which case, you can’t do much. maybe make your eyebrows thicker with light makeup, or contour a bit to look more masc (there’s tutorials on how to do those on youtube!). it might be the way you stand or walk - one thing i do is watch how other guys move around me, and incorporate that into how i move myself.

i hope you can find a way to make things work. :)

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Sorry for sending in two asks but I forgot to add this- how do I find pants that dont make my hips look huge ahh

it’s okay to send two asks! this is a problem a lot of us face. i recommend finding pants that aren’t form-fitting. straight legged pants are good. if you can find a good pair, buy pants actually from the men’s section - but i will warn you, these can sometimes fit weird. men’s pants generally fit okay on the legs, but the waistband can sometimes feel too small.

good luck!!

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Hi! I'm ftm and I cant find a good way to bind that isn't harmful (I just put tape over my chest because my sports bras don't work), and it makes me a little uncomfortable. Is there another way? Thanks!

hey!!! im so sorry this is such a late reply. i don’t know if you still need to hear this, but don’t bind with tape!!! ever!!! tape will damage your skin and can cause pain.

a way to bind is to wear a compression sports bra - you may be wearing support bras instead of a compression bra.

you can also put on your most compressive bra (while making sure it fits correctly! don’t wear a bra that’s too small!) and put a tank top over it. then you can fold the tank top’s bottom over the top, forming an extra layer.

i’d also reccomend wearing looser clothes - a baggier shirt or hoodie will help :)

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transmasc dysphoria playlist!

a small warning, the song ‘cut your bangs’ mentions bugs and ‘steadier footing’ mentions smoking. 

here you go! it’s 22 minutes long, and while not every song is about dysphoria, these are songs i listen to when dysphoric. and i may be updating this in the future! feel free to send in suggestions to add in if you wish!

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hello! i feel i should say a few things.

general things -

if anyone wants to ask on anon, they can!

if you would like your question answered privately, please say so! i don’t want anyone to be worried i will publicly post a personal story or issue.

if i do not answer your question (meaning i don’t give you the information you wanted or i just don’t give a reply), please feel free to re-ask or dm me! i would like to help everyone who comes to me.

if you’d like to submit a series of tips or a post you think would be useful, go ahead! this blog is meant to help.

and some guidelines -

if you send an ask that details sex, details a mental health issue (ex. self harm), or mentions abuse, i will answer privately and request you dm me for help.

please do not ask me about politics. if i feel the need to speak on them i will make a separate post.

please do not ask me about ‘discourse’ (ex. are aces lgbt+). i will address your ask, but i won’t give an answer.

please do not send me an ask about my personal life - this means my age, family, location, my appearance, or my friends.

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If anyone is interested, i have started creating a transmasc dysphoria playlist.

i am making it because i know i like to have songs to listen to when i am feeling down or dysphoric. 

feel free to send in songs! when i feel it’s done i’ll post the link.