I run a blog that recommends the best methods for things like tucking packing binding and padding/stuffing menstrual care and more, I also try to spread general safety resources for anyone who needs it. And I add more information as I learn new things.
The plan is to put links for all my recommendations then have a link to another post that explains things like instructions, safety, and how to wash and care for and alter what I recommend.
(my intro post is linked here, I want to keep the master list pinned instead of it and one more thing)
Why don’t I have a DNI?
And I’m always open for questions or requests, I’ll do specific research on any items you ask about to answer whatever questions anyone sends. I take both asks and DMs, its what this blog is here for.
status: everythings updated :) my grammar is messy but i did my best, ill probably be going back and fixing grammar at some point later maybe.
(updated as in everything i wanted to put here, is here but that only off the knowledge i already had. like i said if i learn something or get more resources for something im missing ill add it.)
1. News.
for keeping up with news about people who are affected by gender/presentation/sex/sex variation discrimination in the states Erin in the Morning(this is who i got these three news links from i recommend subscribing to Erin in the Morning theres a option for a free subscribtion)
Anti-Trans National Risk Assessment Map: 2026 February Edition(the most updated anti gender/sex/presentation national risk map breaks down each states safety. the anti trans is just the name, i acknowledge this isn't accurate and this affects many more people)
LGBTQ+ Legistlative Tracking 2025(tracking all the anti queer bills)
Transgender Healthcare "Shield" Laws(sheild states that promise to protect trans people. again it shouldnt just be trans people here)
where to get HRT USA map (informed consent)
good news lists
1.notes
2. packers, harnesses, altered boxers, stp tutorial(stps can be finicky and arent stealth, i wouldnt spend alot of money on one)
free crochet pattern first video tutorial second video tutorial
free knitted pattern
free sewing pattern
altering boxeres to hold a packer
how to attach a packer
safety instructions and care
soft silicone packer (US shipping on hold, customs restrictions. production times are four weeks.)
another soft one different brand (international shipping from uk. two weeks production times.) more information on tarrif costs
safety instructions and care
why I picked the packers I picked
shipping information tarrif information and more details about the prosthetics design and fit
3. breast forms and bras and bra care and shapewear
free crochet pattern
Knitted, website with free pattern and videos
easier sewn breast forms
Intricate sewn breast forms (cost money boooooo)
silicone circle option or silicone triangle option
another option
shipping information tarrif information and more details about the prosthetics design and fit
pocket bras or expensive pocket bras
and shapewear you can get cheaper underwear from stores near you read my link it explains
if you can’t afford or safely buy shapewear
more information
4. repairing torn silicone(again for specifically soft prosthetics, breasts and packers)
sil-poxy
safety instructions and care
5. silicone adhesives for prosthetics
wig tape(walkers ultra hold. i don't have a link for this, check shops near you or online stores. walker doesn't sell this directly to people. if you don't use the walker brand remember you need something with extra strength to be the equivalent to ultra hold) and Uni-solve adhesive remover for the remover wipes youll need to check online stores for that one (if you cant get this a hair dryer on high heat low blast works to loosen the adhesive so you can get it off safely or a hot shower)
information
6. trans tape
trans tape or big roll of off brand
i get into which one is better for what situation here
safety instructions and care
7. binders
this gets complicated so again please read the stuff i link
safety instructions and care and the three brands cut comparison
how to alter, repair, and reinforce a binder
and if you can’t afford or safely get a binder
how to sew your own binder (the person who did this said it was cheaper for them to make it then buying it)
8. tucking
this video is what id recommend for this
you dont need anything special for this just tights or boxers with some kind of stretchy fabric tube from a shirt or leggings
8. notes
9. menstrual stuff
pads recommended, adult diapers for heavy bleeding, if you can insert something then Saalt Menstrual Disc or Saalt Soft Cup, (i read the disc is better)
gender and sex neutral guide to menstrual products to insert inside (information on cups and discs)
shaving guide for men women and non binary people (doesnt acknowledge intersex people :/ i couldnt find a better shaving guide)
voice training
information on dysphoria
therian and otherkin addition :)
phalloplasty, metoidioplasty and vaginaplasty masterlist
diy hrt and where to get HRT USA map (informed consent)
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other recommendations
guides for the internet, tech, shopping, and cleaning
how to get ai off your search results
tech/online safety degoogle
cooking easy food disability friendly cooking lady
finanial aid more financial aid (mostly international but it depends)
good rx(not insurance but discounts on medication)
things to keep in mind about boycotting
about boycotting YouTube(newpipe, freetube, and using mp3 downloaders on YouTube vids work to)
keep in mind about activism
protesting safety
disabled protesting more
on mass surveillance
seatbelt safety (for people and pets)
Reminders
vaccines
Things you can do to help everything
script to use when calling to complain about KOSA
for SCREEN
take any of the free patterns for packers and breast forms make them and drop them off at local trans centers or homeless centers and if you have the money do the same with binders bras boxers underwear and the reusable menstrual discs and cups(these are especially amazing because they’re silicone you just rinse them out shower and reuse every time every month so homeless people and just anyone doesn’t have to spend money on tampons every month. They’re also safer then tampons)
and get vaccinated
blogs I recommend for positivity and resources
trans-punk-experience, transsexual-experiences, dandelionsresilience, letters-to-lgbt-kids, queer-mental-health, anti-terf-posts answersfromzestual, crafting-and-tea, reasonsforhope, isuggestcompassion,
the family blogs, people who listen
your-queer-lil-sib, big-sister-blog, bigbroadvice, your-new-big-sibling, your-trans-brother your-queer-dad(he’s been taking breaks so there won’t be quick responses, the breaks are a good thing just want to make that clear) trans-joy-is, intersex-joy-is,
this-is-sexism(one of my favorites) this-is-transgynephobia, this-is-transandrophobia, thisis-intersexism, this-is-excrosexism, this-is-amato-heteronormativity, this-is-aphobia,
this-is-internoirism, thisisracism (these last two are about poc experiences!!! thats so rare on tumblr im so excited!!! please do go check them out!!)
sex ed blogs(real accurate sex ed, as in intersex inclusive)
comprehensive sex ed, dhddmods(is back)
sex characteristics and genitalia variations rundown
whats igm/ how to check yourself for it
list of sex surgeries (reconstructive, constructive, sex reassignment etc are all under this)
where to ask questions and unpack negative sterotypes about peoples sex
this is one of my favorites when it comes to 101 of gender and sex
some things to keep in mind while youre going through all this sex binaries are bad no matter how you slice it even if theyre degendered. and its up to people to label themselves, people cant force labels on you or force information out of you, and at the same time you cant transition into being intersex because its a sex situation youre born with. at the same time pretending like everyone who has x and started as y is z is not the move to make. and everyone is oppressed under patriarchy and everyone has a word to describe their feelings, misandry isnt a incel word they stole it and warped it just like how radfems stole and warped feminism and misogyny, but it doesnt make any of it theirs. lastly anyone can be any kind of bigoted being any gender or anything, doesnt make you more or less likely to hurt anyone or be hurt by someone specific, there are so many people in this world and so many ways to think you cant generalize groups and assume one is safer and these others are unsafe based on factors people cant control. and of course never threaten anyone or drag things out when someone is trying to harass you the safest thing to do is to just report and block and move on.
i have complicated feelings about some of these guides and "this-is" blogs because a lot of what i listed out isnt acknowledged or ever taken seriously but they still do hold the most updated guides so just tread carefully
and its the same way the other way around too my resources are open to everyone as long as you dont start harassing me or my followers or anons etc
blogs I like about mostly bugs and fish and art
onenicebugperday, marinebiology1, snoopyoftheday, herpsandbirds, mammalianmammals, stickyfrogs, uncharismatic-fauna, bugposting, sealsdaily, bugthingsdaily, fishthingdaily, isopawds, maggotmuncher0, amingledyarn
music recs (mp3 information in tech masterlist)
no idea where my work out links went?? take this this and this there you go heres a proper guide
remember it’s important to balance out the things you have to put up with for safety with stuff you like art or animals or anything else
