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New Writing blog!

I know a lot of you on here follow me for my writing and fanfiction so I decided to set up an account purely dedicated to my writing work!

Here it is! Be sure to check it out to see updates on all my fics, read deleted scenes and see exerpts from the book I'm writing!

Thank you all for your support!

#mothdads #mothdads-writing #you can also sponsor me or pay for writing commissions! Its very exciting!#transfashionguy

Some thoughts on Gender Performance.

As trans people, we are all held to a much higher standard of gender performance than would be the norm. Once you come out, trans people often feel forced to eat, sleep and breathe your preferred gender. Even decisions made as a toddler can be leveraged against you, and suddenly you find your childhood love for dolls and gel pens and the colour pink leveraged against you.

We all remember first transitioning- supplementing your now useless wardrobe with baggy tee shirts, trying to translate your personal image into something very different all at once, telling your friends you’d never wear makeup, even though you were wearing it last week.

It’s one of the most terrifying, frustrating experiences of your life- and you should be very proud of it.

Advice for the recently transitioned*:

Be mindful of your health while binding. Where possible, try to buy binders from sources with good reputations, and try not to bind for more than 8 hours a day. However, also be mindful of your mental health. If binding for a few more hours will make your time better and less dysphoric, that’s okay. While there’s lots of advice on safer binding that you should absolutely look up, ultimately the choice of how long to bind for or the source of your binder is your decision.

Coming out never really ends. Being trans will be part of your identity, but you can decide when or if to come out to certain people. Different people are more/less likely to be immediately accepting, and the thought of coming out to them may be scary. You don’t have to come out to everybody all at once, and you definitely don’t need to come out to people who could put you in danger. It’s your decision, and only you know what’s right for you.

Medically transitioning is a difficult process. It may be hard to get a referral, and for UK trans people, you may have to go to group therapy with your parents at a specialist centre in order to get a referral onto hormones or hormone blockers. If this process puts you under too much pressure, you can stop and come back to it sometime when you feel more prepared.

If what you want to do with your body is not yet happening, remember- it will happen. Sometimes circumstance will mean that you get to transition later than your friends. This is painful to see, and it’s easy to resent people over it. But every day you make it through is a day closer to getting there. Set goals for yourself in the future. It could give you more reassurance than feeling like you’re stuck in limbo.

Even if you don’t like how you look, someone else will. Dysphoria may affect your self image, but it’s important to remember that you just aren’t your type. There are people out there who will find you utterly breathtaking.

Do not settle for someone who doesn’t respect your identity. Relationships like this will make you feel worthless, and create an inequal and unhealthy power balance.

Do not feel obliged to date someone just because they like you. As a trans person, you are every bit as dateable as a cis person, with the same intrinsic worth as any other person and should not be afraid to be picky.

Present how you want. Society may have an ideal of the perfect male body, but there are few men who fit into that, and nearly all men have some insecurity over their body. You do not have to dress how they tell you to. Wearing makeup, or liking the colour pink or wearing heels will not make you less of a man. If you feel uncomfortable with packing or binding, you don’t have to do it. You don’t have to bind or pack to be transgender, and the way that your friends decide to present themselves might not be for you.

Trans has no size, age, ability or skin colour. While other people might hold on to outdated ideals, know that it’s their own problem, not yours, and don’t be afraid to talk openly about it. But also don’t feel like you have to educate people. Everyone can use google, and you can remind them of that.

Progress might not look the way it does in photos. After a few years, your transition might not look how you expected it to in the beginning. After five years of being openly transgender, I haven’t been on T, and I have started to wear makeup again. My hair is the longest it has been since I was eleven, and I recently started buying certain things from the women’s section of stores again. But I am also wiser, more confident and outspoken than I ever was before, and I am not afraid to look effeminate. As you transition and you get older, you will also grow as a person. You may present or dress differently to how you did when you first came out. You might want different things for yourself as a person. This is okay.

*Remember, everyone has different experiences of being trans, and not all this information might be relevant to you (most of it is geared towards trans men, as they are my personal experience).

Enjoy yourself as much as you can, and good luck!

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This outfit is cursed it caused me to buy five scented candles when i just wanted to donate some old jewellery to my local charity shop

#Still looks cool as frick tho #Blue on blue on blue is the colour scheme of today folks with hints of white pink and red #Transfashionguy