#trauma based

[nsftpolls]

Do you have any kinks related to your trauma?

Yes, all of them

Yes, most of them

Yes, a few of them

No, none of my kinks are related to my trauma

No, I am not kinky

Not applicable/results

Voting ended onSep 22, 2024

You are not obligated to share the kink or trauma

[ritualisticlamb]

I know that my trauma doesn't make me a burden but the resources I require for myself to heal is the thing that makes me feel like a burden.

[meeresbande]

creatingmyselfasigo replied to your post: Also the assumption that certain neuro...

I use that as a worst case option. I know a ton of people who don’t believe they had any trauma, and I don’t believe they’re faking. Best case trauma isn’t needed, worst case they’re unaware or in denial. IMO that’s for them to figure out.

Same!

[meeresbande]

Also the assumption that certain neurotypes/brain stuffs can ONLY come from trauma really plays into the idea that there is only one way to be psychologically and mentally healthy and normal and that every deviation from that norm must be explained and must have trauma origins. And like. Do you see the inherent ableism in that thought process?

I used to think this way about a lot of mental health things and now I don't.

(Although like. Yes PTSD is always caused by trauma. But that's pretty much the only thing I can think of off the top of my head that is, which is bc it is literally defined as being a post-traumatic stress disorder.)

[meeresbande]

I'm a coping mechanism

I only exist because I am a coping mechanism. If I hadn't been needed to keep one of us or us as a system functioning or even just alive, I would not exist. I am born from trauma and nothing else. Without it, I would not be here at all.

None of this takes anything away from my value as a person. I am a whole, full person, I can laugh and cry and love and hate and be scared and careless, I have things I can and things I can't do, things I had to learn first, things I could still learn, things I'll never be able to do. Just like anyone else.

So don't ever tell me or imply that just because I was born as a coping mechanism I'm somehow "less than" anyone or anything else or that it's sad that I exist because fuck you, I'm really really glad that I do exist and I want to live just like other people, too.