Treasured Warriors: A Deserted Market
Where is the man that is going to take me off of this deserted market?
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but what can blossom from something deserted? I can continue with analogies all day long, but let’s address the real issues at hand.
1) Boundaries
2) Self Care
3) Walking in Purpose
Boundaries: You must be willing to stand strong on the boundaries you’ve put out into the universe. People rarely forget the things one said they wouldn’t do. When you go against your word, you’ve crossed your own boundary and have created a pathway for people to challenge your inconsistency. How committed are you to your own boundaries? Especially when it comes to a relationship... or when it comes to ending one because your boundaries have been crossed. Forgiveness is a good quality to possess, however, it doesn’t mean a person has to remain in your life at the same capacity after they’ve crossed a boundary.
Self Care: The whole idea that the man that God has for me better accept me for who I am is a joke, a lie, and an excuse for laziness. The man God has for you is also attracted by what he see’s. The way you look when you leave the house to run to the grocery store is a reflection of what’s going on inside of you. There is a fine line between over doing it and not doing enough, and it’s important to find that sweet spot. When you’re ready to accept the person God has for you, yes, you can make lounge wear look like a cocktail dress because there is a natural glow that pours out of you that will attract many. However, the truth is, most of us say we’re ready for a spouse and have some emotional growing to do.
Walking in Purpose: I heard a preacher once say when you’re walking in your purpose the person who is capable of supporting you in it will find you there. I soon realized that most of us do the opposite. We first, are so busy looking we take away the man’s responsibility to look. We second, hope the man we find will then help us discover our purpose. For the sake of trying something different in order to get different results, let’s do this. Discover our purpose and begin living in it. On the road to discovery, your spouse may find you there.
Being single is not easy. It wasn’t long ago that I was an unmarried woman. However, my journey to being The Confident Wife started with the three touch points that I mentioned. I had to set boundaries before a relationship, during and even more so now that I’m married. I had to and have to take care of myself; physically, emotionally and spiritually in order to be whole. And most importantly, I have to walk in my purpose so that I can continue to discover who I am and why God choose me to live. Being single is not a death sentence, it’s an opportunity for self discovery. In your weak moments of waiting for your spouse remember the wait doesn’t have to be done in misery, it can be done victoriously.
<3 TCW