#treiphobia

[mtm-dragon]

sometimes transandrophobes are just so obvious that it hurts me.

“oh you should stop whining about invisibility because you have it so easy. i am going to demand that you be silent and invisible.”

“transmascs are the least oppressed part of the lgbt community and that’s why they need to stop playing oppression olympics.”

how do they not see the hypocrisy?

[rjalker]

"trans men are priveledged for being seen as women"

"trans men are priveledged for being seen as men"

so which is it. which is it? it literally cannot be both. Either you think trans men are priveledged for being seen as women, or you think they're priveledged for always passing. You have to pick one. You cannot just tell two lies at the same time and act like you know what you're talking about.

according to Julia Serano, trans men facing transphobia and being seen as women is a privilege, somehow. Even though her whole argument is that feminine people are more oppressed by virtue of being feminine.

Which is also why she says absurd shit like butch women are looked on more favorably by our society than feminine women. Because I guess she's never spoken to a gender nonconforming cis woman or AFAB person once in her whole life.

[mogai-sunflowers]

so srry u seem to be being harrassed by the baed/dels. /gen

love ur stuff

ty! yea, they suck but I don’t much mind it anymore. It hurts it first but then I just remember how much better and cooler I am than them which is fun so :)

[miraculouslumination]

Why did I have to get over my internalized transphobia towards myself and accept that I'm transmasc just as the discourse around transmascs and whether we deserve a word for our own oppression or not (spoiler alert: we do - and at this point, I don't care what word is used, we just need one)

I had to overcome a lot of personal issues leading me to accepting myself. I silenced the part of me that was afraid of being a man, or even viewed as one, because the internet has instilled in so many of us that Being A Man = Evil, Awful, Violent and Monstrous. I learned to love and appreciate the non-binary, masculine part of me, to not be ashamed of pulling away from womanhood and feminity in a big way.

Now it seems like my whole community is setting itself on fire, and being ravaged by people who aren't part of the community. And it's fucking terrifying. It's sickening. It's heartbreaking.

It makes me scared to exist. To talk about my identity, my struggles, my hopes and more. It makes me angry to see people say with such confidence in their heart, chest and soul that people like me do not have a unique type of oppression "because we're [ALL] men*", and then actively try to shame, ostracize, harass, abuse, gaslight, and manipulate us into silence and compliance. Why? Because we abandoned womanhood. Because we betrayed women as a whole by daring to dirty our feminine physique with manhood and masculinity. Because we ""murdered"" a daughter that never even truly existed; accept as a way to keep the individual safe and in the closet. Because we're transmasc and trans men.

All the work I made into building up my confidence, in saying goodbye to my home of womanhood which had housed me for years, finally breaking those shackles and making an identity for myself away from it all.

It feels like it was all for nothing. It feels like the moment I stepped away from womanhood, I gave away a privilege I did not even know I had. The privilege of victimhood, of the crimes and abuse dealt to me being taken seriously and earnestly. Because men can't be hurt. We can't be abused, or discriminated, or neglected, or experience anything negative.

All men are and ever will be are animals; monsters seeking to manipulate and twist the minds of our poor innocent daughters until they mutilate their own bodies for a sense of euphoria. That is how the world views me and my community as. Hyenas who trail behind the feet of precious cis women, waiting for a time to strike and bring up the wonders we feel of being trans.

By stepping away from womanhood, I unknowingly stepped into a role where I would always be anticipated as being the monster. That everytime I spoke, people would only hear teeth-gnashing and gutteral growls. Anytime I would move, they'd expect it to be a strike against them.

No longer could I play the damsel in distress; I was now the large beast, with claws and teeth and gnatted, filthy fur which held her captive. And for some people, they view me as the beast imprisoning my inner woman. So they wish to kill that beast in order to set her free.

But how am I meant to explain how I am that woman as much as I am the beast?

How is a beast meant to be seen in a kinder light, when the village always pulls out their pitchforks and torches at the sight of them? How are they meant to be seen in a better light, when the world projects their fear and anger onto that beast; only to scream in fear when the beast reflects it right back?

I put in so much work for myself. I was so happy and excited to accept this part of myself. Deep down, I knew that I would lose the respect and trust of many around me. But I never expected my new home to already be up in smoke and flames not long after I arrived.

I never expected the fear and hopelessness of my identity to have arrived so soon. I never thought the shame of masculinity would come back like a baseball being swung into me. I never anticipated this much despise for my identity - for people like me. I never wanted this to be the reality I live in.

[*Note: not all transmasc people fully identify as men, or at all. My experience of being transmasc is much more out of the binary, and I doubt I am the only one. Yet we all get lumped under the label as "men" nonetheless because non-binary (especially multigendered) people such as myself tend to be forced back into some form of binary.]

[mtm-dragon]

holy shit y’all i just had The Experience

i was scrolling through pinterest, looking at some queer memes (as you do) and i stumbled upon a post that seemed…a little bit bæddel-y. that’s not super uncommon, but what struck me about this post was that the first part of it could have been said by a terf. had it not had a reply underneath talking about trans women in a positive light.

so against my better judgment, i clicked on it. the recommended posts underneath that were a bunch of pins talking about tras.

[rjalker]

*banging pots and pans together and shouting* Julia Serrano is exorsexist as fucking shit and says gay people aren't actually oppressed for their same-gender attraction, it just because they're gender nonconforming!!!! But then she literally turns around to claim that butch women are treated better by our society and have privilege over traditionally feminine women, and says the white western gender binary only exists because it's the most natural one, and says nonbinary people are just actually binary trans but don't want to admit it because they want to feel superior to trans women, and trans men are simultaneously priveledged for being treated like women but also they're priveledged for always passing and being seen as men, and literally spends all her essays pretending her experiences are universal while paying lip service every now and then to the idea that all trans people are oppressed and she isn't trying to downplay the oppression non-trans women face, only to then immediately go on to downplay and dismiss and speak over other trans people about the the oppression they face and pretend like she knows trans men's experiences better than they do, and says nonbinary people aren't actually nonbinary but just saying we are to feel superior, but no one wants to fucking talk about this because I guess bigotry is okay as long as you're a trans woman who had enough money to go to collage and get paid money to put this bigoted shit in books!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[rjalker]

that fucking post that's like "the term transmisogyny came about from years of research, meanwhile transandrophobia's just a bunch of boys being mad they aren't the center of attention" or whatever the fuck it says is really fucking hilarious considering half the stuff in the book the word comes from is literally her just acting like her personal experiences apply to literally everyone in the world.

She says that brains are inherently gendered as either male or female, that the white western gender binary wouldn't exist if it weren't the real One True Natural System™, that nonbinary and multigender people are just actually binary trans but in denial about it so they can feel superior to trans women.

She says that trans men get nothing but benefits from transitioning, and never ever ever have trouble passing, and meanwhile trans women get nothing but disadvantages.

She says that butch women????? are privileged????????????? over traditionally feminine ones??????....like holy shit????? She genuinely honestly fucking believes that gendernonconforming women are treated better by our society than ones who wear makeup and dresses!!!!

This is the book you're all taking as gospel???? really?????

this is the "years of research" you're pointing at as a holy fucking scripture????????????

One white woman claiming that her personal experience is the way the world is, while she actively erases and speaks over other trans people and pretends like she knows what they go through better than they do?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

Are you fucking serious????????????????

[rjalker]

one thing I cannot comprehend is Julia Serano rightfully criticizing and going into detail about all the medical hoops trans women have to go to in order to transition and all this stuff about it being treated like a mental disorder and how this is harmful and dehumanizing (and I am morally obligated to point out that while she's talking about how this is all so bad for trans women, she downplays and dismisses what this same system puts trans men through)...but then she also argues that being trans should /not/ be demedicalized, and trans people /should/ have to go to therapy to get hormones and transition, and it's like.........what are you even trying to say at this point.

I read the first half of that book before I had to stop because the bigotry was just too fucking infuriating, and I don't think she made a single argument or statement that she didn't then immediately contradict without a single shred of irony.

Like I get that the book is literally just a collection of essays she wrote at different times, all shoved together and sold, but it feels like she didn't even read through the finished product to make sure everything lined up. She contradicts almost everything she says.

Like. She literally explains why treating being trans like a mental disorder is bad (but only if you're a trans woman, trans men face no problems from this system according to her). But then says it should continue being treated like a mental disorder???

I am baffled. There's no other word for it. It's just baffling.