The Jon Hamm look-alike Narcissist
I had discovered one of my favourite dating platforms: OkCupid. It was on here that I was enjoying an open onslaught of dudes, some just for Mr. right now but also others as potential Mr’ Rights...
I came upon this very dashing guy who was practically a double for Jon Hamm, honestly please show me a woman who doesn’t have a thing for Hamm and I will call her a liar... He was from the US and was in the media and claimed he came over to see a woman he had been pen palling with on that dating platform but said that things went pear shaped as she didn’t seem to be who she claimed she was...
In our messages, he seemed very personable, charming and definitely was a man who knew what he was about, oh so damn attractive...
Our date started with a game of tennis, there’s nothing quite like seeing one another exert in a competitive field to get a feel of one another’s energies... From there we went out to lunch and then decided to rendezvous to mine for, a “movie”....
There was a definite chemistry between us and the conversation was flowing nicely, he was incredibly charismatic, had a larger than life personality and knew how to sweep a girl off her feet...and into the sheets. Our competitive spirit lent itself nicely to a power play of sorts, an extension of the taunt of the tennis court, with him ultimately winning the game of dominance.
He was very complimentary yet there was one thing that was starting to rear his head: for such a cock sure guy, any reference to another man seemed to send him into a sort of jealous rant, even going so far to say to me that he didn’t want to hear me talk about any other guy. But hey, he looked like Jon Hamm, was a complete charismatic charmer and good between the sheets so I was willing to make some allowances.
It was only that evening that I mentioned something about liking a characteristic of a fictional character, Indiana Jones, that I discovered what sort of dude I was dealing with. It was the very next day when we were meant to spend some time together, that morning I received some very harsh messages from him. The seemingly charismatic (albeit insecure) charmer had turned into a scathing viper, berating me for not listening to his wishes with referencing other men. I was incredulous, the only other time I referenced another dude was talking about Indiana Jones, uhhhh wow, he was threatened by a fictional film character????? He accused me of being insensitive to his wishes, how dare I keep talking about other men in front of him, I tried to make light of it “ahhhh is this about Indiana Jones? Oh come on I was just giving you a cheeky insight into traits I find attractive in men ;-)” but I was only met with silence.
The charming man with the larger than life personality had revealed his other side, not even the dapper Jon Hamm-esque vibes could hide the ugly narcissist within....
