Posted @withregram • @synergy.gentle.parenting But what if our success was defined by OUR behavior as a parent instead? Our ego tries to protect us from feeling shame or unworthiness. When our children ”trigger” those feelings within, our ego mistakes our children as a threat, and we may lash out and attack them, instead of turning inward and recognizing the opportunity to heal, to evolve. -Blimie Heller, @unconditional_parenting I'd like to add: Perspective is Powerful. When we see our child’s behavior as separate to their personality AND recognize behavior as a developmental bid for connection or cry for help, THEN we are free to be curious, calm, confident, compassionate, conscious and connected. When we aren't triggered into worrying about how our child’s behaviour reflects on us or determines who our child will become, and when we believe that we are enough and our child will mature, THEN we can focus on what we both feel and need to do better. When we have a compassionate perspective, we are free to focus our energy on regulating our own behavior and holding space for our children, and this is where our power lies. 🌻with love, Lelia #strengthenedthroughgentleness #trustbasedparenting #innerpeace #selfregulation #innerdiscipline #unconditionalparenting #positivediscipline #peacefulparenting #consciousparenting #parentproblems #childpsychologist #childdevelopment #EQ #healingthenervoussystem #relationalhealth #behaviouralscience #interpersonalneurobiology #leliaschott #parentcoaching #innerchildhealing #attachmenttheory #secureattachment #synergygentleparentingresources #responsiveparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CDjcUjiAPsY/?igshid=6dckqe7pde54