#secureattachment

[behaviorfacts]

🧠✨ The First Connection: How Early Love Builds a Lifetime Pattern

Our earliest relationships shape far more than we realize. From the way we regulate emotions to how we love and trust as adults — it all begins with attachment.

Psychologists John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth taught us that humans are biologically wired to form emotional bonds. These “attachment styles”, developed in childhood, often follow us throughout life:

🔹 The Four Main Attachment Styles

1. Secure 💬 Feels safe in relationships 🤝 Trusts others 💞 Can express emotions openly

2. Anxious 💬 Craves closeness but fears rejection 🌀 Emotionally intense 📵 Often worries about being abandoned

3. Avoidant 💬 Struggles with intimacy 🧍‍♀️ Seems emotionally distant 🔒 Highly independent

4. Disorganized 💬 Fears intimacy but also craves it ⚡️ Often linked to trauma ❗️Unpredictable behavior in relationships

💡 Why It Matters

These early patterns affect: ✔️ How we handle conflict ✔️ How we cope with stress ✔️ How we connect with partners, friends, even coworkers

But here’s the hopeful part: attachment styles can change. Through self-awareness, healthy relationships, and therapy, we can move toward secure attachment — no matter our past.

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📚 Read the full article on: 👉 https://behaviorfacts.com/the-first-connection-how-early-love-builds-a-lifetime-pattern/

[thewickedqueen]

[nottinghamcounselling]

A really good explanation of #attachmenttheory #avoidantattachment #anxiousattachment #disorganisedattachment #secureattachment #parenting #mentalhealth #relationships #relationship #counselling #counseling #counsellor #counselor #gedling #gedlingcounsellor #mapperley #mapperleycounselling #carlton #carltoncounselling #netherfield #netherfieldcounsellor #nottingham #nottinghamcounselling #ng4 #ng4counselling #elainebondcounselling (at Elaine Bond Counselling Services) https://www.instagram.com/p/CPSmCYSFV9l/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

Secure Attachment “Secure attachment is like a big cozy quilt that you can always feel holding you safe… keeping you warm and loved. It’s a knowledge that the quilt will always be there and you do not question whether you are worthy of it’s warmth, you know you are.” J. Milburn @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #attachmentstyles #attachmenttheory #secureattachment #attachmentmatters https://www.instagram.com/p/CUcpweogQrK/?utm_medium=tumblr

[masteringrelationships]

I’ve been told I am a charismatic, charming confident person; however, I battle with self-esteem issues. Not overtly but it comes out in what I allow in relationships, every day dealings, friendships, it goes on. People aren’t attracted to those who don’t believe that much in themselves, I believe. So I’m working on this.

I remember a therapist years ago asking me “what are your values?” — I was like uh do you have a list I can choose from, I have no idea lady. To this day, I need to do that exercise ASAP.

These kinds of questions are important before getting into the dating world as knowing who you are and who you are not is insanely appealing + you weed out potential partners that don’t align with your core self.

via @thesecurerelationship

[theresiliencebridge]

#attachmenttheory #secureattachment #coping https://www.instagram.com/p/CPRkWQvjQfT/?utm_medium=tumblr

[corazon-tradicional]

"Curiosity comes out of a sense of safety; rigidity out of being vigilant to threats."

Dr. Sue Johnson in Hold Me Tight (23)

[responsiveparenting]

5 Alternatives to “Good Job” “You’re so responsible” “Thank you for being so helpful” “I know that was hard. I appreciate all your effort” “Wow! That was amazing!” “You must be so proud of yourself!” J. Milburn The phrase “good job” is not bad or wrong. Don’t ever feel guilty about showing your child appreciation. There are alternatives, however, that can send messages that may be even more motivating and encouraging. Try one of these instead, sometime. Edited to add: for some the phrase “you’re so responsible” may trigger an emotional response. If you were a child who had undo responsibility and this is one way your family encouraged your compliance in that, than this phrase may seem inappropriate and maybe it is for you. You need to be conscious when using that one. I would use it if my toddler put away their shoes on their own or maybe my 8 year old dressed for school without me asking. @responsive_parenting Reference: Alfie Kohn “5 Reasons to Stop Saying Good Job” (2001) https://www.alfiekohn.org/article/five-reasons-stop-saying-good-job/ #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #attachment #attachmentparenting #secureattachment #motivatingkids #responsiblekids #intrinsicmotivation #encouragement #waystopraise #parenthood #parentingwithintention https://www.instagram.com/p/CS-Qy1bn--f/?utm_medium=tumblr