I know it isn't your top turn relationship priority, but what did you think of the abe/mary scenes? part of me was happy that mary's getting the "real" marriage that she wants, but part of me feels like we missed a step in their development, considering he was still asking anna "what about /us/?" back in 3x04(?). objectively, i know that they have time constraints, but what are your opinions? you always have such insightful analyses. thanks!
Thank you, I’m glad you like my analyses, and it’s funny you should ask about this! Let me refer to the notes I wasfrantically scribbling longhand all through the ep, where I scrawled…
“YOU’RE MY CAUSE ABRAHAM” GOD DAM N MARY I WEEP !!!!!
…I adored that line. Just as I adored Mary saving him later in the ep.
You’reright that this relationship isn’t my top priority(if only because literally nothing else comes close to the one that is), andit’s no secret that I’ve had a lot of frustrations over the years with Abe. ButI adore Mary, and I’m actually very supportive of their marriage working out.Yes, there were points in season 3 that seemed to be backsliding towardAbe/Anna – which frustrated me at the time – but now, with the benefit ofhindsight, I think I understand why that happened. I think that backsliding wasultimately in service of a larger point: that Abe and Mary’s relationship is succeeding for the same reasons that Abeand Anna’s failed.
Itdoesn’t look like Abe and Mary are suited in the beginning, right? Season 1 pushes that~star-crossed forbidden romance~ angle hard, and Mary, while not unsympathetic evenback then, is cast in the role of the uptight wife who’s an impediment to Abe’swork as well as to his and Anna’s ~love.~ Mary does not share Abe’s politicalsympathies, as Anna does; she does not share Abe’s history, his childhood, hiscircle of friends; they’ve been married a couple years or so by that point, yetthere’s a sense that Abe and Mary … still don’t really know one another verywell. Abe sees Mary as an obstacle, Mary sees Abe as wayward, and the spyworkand Anna affair has them at odds…
…untilEnsign Baker is shot. And suddenly, both Abe and the audience realize that Maryis (as Abraham himself says) much more than the lovely rose Thomasdescribed. She is, in fact, every bit as cunning and ruthless as Abraham, whenshe needs to be – which can make her a helluva asset to him, or a helluvaimpediment, depending on whether their goals at any given moment align.
Fortunately,with each season, their goals have aligned more and more – partly because Abelearns to value Mary more, but largely because Mary slowly comes to accept thatshe’ll never succeed in stopping Abe, so she might as well help his dumb assany way she can. Teamwork brings out the best in Abe and Mary’s relationship. Iseldom like Abe more than when he’s listening to Mary’s ideas and we see thetwo of them collaborating and supporting one another. There’s some lovelyAbe/Mary content in … 3.01, I think? Where she’s, y’know, stuffing pistols upher petticoats for him to cover up Eastin’s murder (which was her idea), andthen they tumble into bed together all playful and sweet. Watching that, Iremember thinking: “Thank GOD! Abe has FINALLY realized how well they worktogether! He’s FINALLY learned to appreciate his wife!”
…Andthen the Hewlett situation happens. And the long-cooling embers of Abe/Annaflare up for one last, miserable hurrah.
Becauseat the same time that Abe and Mary have been learning how well suited they are– both cunning, both stubborn, and both increasingly willing to engage inwhatever violence or deceit they need to in order to achieve their goals andprotect the things they love – Anna has been undergoing a paralleltransformation. Hers, however, is asoftening. She who started out the series so angry and so confident in therebel cause has discovered compassion and admiration for someone she neverexpected, and as a result, she now finds herself drawing lines she can nolonger cross. And what we see when Abe comes back from prison – which rendershim more bitter and ruthless than ever before – is suddenly, his ruthlessness frightens Anna even as her affection forHewlett baffles him.
ContrastAnna’s behavior during the Abe–Hewlett conflict with Mary’s. Because Mary andEdmund, they were friends, right? They seemed to respect one another? To getalong? In season 2, she calls him a darling man, a good man, and prays for hissafety and his soul. She even helps save him the first time from Abe! But oncethat conflict is in the open…? She loses all sympathy for Hewlett. She refusesto help Anna broker a peace. She knows that Abe intends to betray Hewlett, andher response to Anna is basically: What,you don’t want Abe killing this guy to protect his family? That sounds like aYOU problem, hon. For Anna, trying to protect both men is an absolutecrisis. For Mary, it’s no dilemma whatsoever. Abe is her cause.
Interms of priorities, personalities, cunning, aggressiveness toward obstacles,stubbornness in pursuit of sometimes selfish goals, and willingness to crossmoral lines for the sake of what they hold dear, Abe and Mary understand oneanother in a way that Abe and Anna simply cannot anymore. The reason we getthat backsliding in early season 3, though, is that Abe has not yet fullyrealized or accepted this yet. I think he’s extremely jealous of Anna’saffections, and I think he’s absolutely furious with her for protecting Hewlettbecause he simply cannot for the life of him understand why the HELL she isdoing this. For him and Mary, pragmatism demandsthat Hewlett be dealt with, and that’s as simple as that. The abstract moraldilemma Anna is grappling with simply does not exist.
Inshort: the reason Abe’s feelings for Anna flare up again in early season 3 isso that they can be definitively doused. A last violent, ugly show ofresistance to change before Abe can accept that it’s time to move on.
Fortunately,we’ve seen no further backsliding in season 4. Abe and Anna have healed theirfriendship, but Mary is Abe’s partner in life and love, and I think he knowsit. God knows Mary deserves better than anyone can give her, and I have toagree that we haven’t seen as much obvious devotion or development of feelingson Abe’s side of the equation as we have on Mary’s. I think it’s clear herespects and cares for Mary, but he’s often focused on the cause. However, giventhat it was only a couple seasons ago that he was telling her he didn’t loveher the way she loved him, I think it’s wonderful how much progress the two ofthem have made.