I debated writing this for a really long time, partly because I feel as though my experiences with tea/addy/hiqey/sex honestly pale in comparison to the abuse she’s inflicted on others, but mostly because when I first addressed my grievances with addy, I was initially gaslit and made out to be a liar by her and her friends— a lot of people who actually happen to be writing PSAs and in the same vein had no problem being complicit in her behavior until she was exposed for the entire community to see.
Most of you have seen the screenshots from my conversations with addy about her behavior in impulsetv so I won’t really touch on that past the fact that I have to look within myself for essentially a coward, being afraid to defend my own friend to the best of my ability because addy had essentially snaked her way into my life before she decided I was expendable and due to this I was afraid she would use my personal information against me. my phone number, personal twitter and facebook etc. even thought I am an adult. that’s something I have to take accountability for— just like a lot of you have to take accountability for the fact you allowed this white woman to weaponize you to attack people like me and others who attempted to speak out about her before this. this isn’t a post to victim shame, but it is a post for people who people who have no other excuse for their behavior other than “addy manipulated me.” or “behind the scenes it was different.” I hate to name drop but winnie/winnivers/ @baileafs there were times I’ve WATCHED you actively attack people for addy without her having to lift so much as a finger. and deejay/rpslayed has her own separate history of abuse that needs to be addressed deeper. Like the receipts are all there, there’s no more distancing yourself from this quietly.
Essentially the generalized excuses of “i only bullied people because of addy” without taking into consideration that y’all STILL BULLIED PEOPLE, isn’t the apology you think it is. A lot of you who just recently dropped this girl really need to take a deep look at what you stand for as people in and out of this community and how this girl’s entire notoriety was built on the fact that a lot of you would have done anything to feel popular or notorious yourself for a crumb of attention— and she knew this about you. I won’t lie she was convincing, but as soon as her old behavior crept up I learned the hard way that you can’t stay silent, because it only allowed her to become more empowered. So to the people who are still working through how they played a part in addy’s behavior or even feel untouched by this issue, I hope this is a wake up call for you. The whole community had a lot to learn from this, so start doing the work now.
