Dating is excess
I was talking to a dear friend of mine a couple hours, days, weeks,whatever it was ago, and she was telling me of her online dating ventures.
Now, I am not a fan of online dating. I have actually never made it to the date part. I’m just too much of a smart ass for it and for some reason my witty charm does not come across well via the Internet. Or i have just chickened out about actually going on a date. Yeah i just admitted that. Sorry to any potential online daters who I said I would meet up with. That point being said, I have tried it. Please see anything to do with Tinder on this blog. And since I have once upon a time tried it, I can comment on what my previously mentioned dear friend said about “online dating being/ creating excess in dating” because of how easily accessible the Internet is to our little eager finger tips.
At this comment I instantly disagreed. Dating is in excess no matter how one dates in the 21st century.
Why yes online dating is easily accessible thanks to apps being located on smart phones. Tinder is a prime example of this. Let’s say one has yet another endless work meeting and the meeting is getting…well boring as most do, so one jumps on Tinder and next thing you know you are swiping left and right, maybe messaging, then before you know it the long exhausting fucking work meeting is over thanks to some easy,conscious-friendly app for judging people based on nothing more than their selfies.
Now my dear friend would like to say that online dating provides more opportunities to “communicate” with multiple people instantly and to book multiple dates within minutes. See my previous mentioned example of Tinder above. To my arguing point though, how are these online dating apps any different than a person going from bar to bar or text message to text message planning dates with multiple people.
To me there is no difference. Dating these days is in excess and connecting, contacting people is as easily accessible via an app versus a phone call or walking up to a person and asking them out (Not that people know how to do this these days thanks to online dating. My grandparents and everyone else’s are turning over in their graves because of it).
Dating is excess. We can date multiple people at a time because as long as there is no title or anything serious who is to say you should only date one person at a given time?
Live a little. Enjoy the excess of dating or don’t. Break the barriers society and this tech driven generation has given us. Or don’t. Either way, it will lead to excess. Welcome to the 21st century!
I have to go now. Selena’s Bidi Bidi Bom Bom is playing on my iTunes on Texas Independence Day. I have to go dance around my whole apartment foolishly now. (Also, if you think Selena Gomez when I mention “Selena” please do not read this blog any further).
Love you, mean it,
Lowes