#typebplusjourney

[minniti]

What's the meaning behind your username?

as i once said so sagely: “i just like girls and drinking”

[minniti]

typebplusjourney replied to your photoset “scnjunipero: happy lesbian day of visibility ������”

How do you identify, @vodkagirls ? Just curious. I'm struggling a bit with my sexuality myself.

@typebplusjourney hey there! basically, i identify as a cis female bisexual. i’ve written about this before so i’ll repost:

dude im gonna give you the realest advice i can when it comes to sexuality. let that shit slide. don’t overthink it. don’t stress to label. feel a particular way? then you feel it. but in my past experience trying to fit a god damn label onto everything i felt only proved to stunt discovering who i was and hid away a lot of internalization i had for my like of girls. i knew i wasn’t straight since i was 12 and it scared the living shit out of me, so i covered it up with a lot of fancy names and convinced myself i didn’t really have sga and all of that only made me feel worse about myself because i couldn’t “find” one that fit me. i thought every feeling needed a label and i would get frustrated when there wasn’t something that worked. i felt broken. it took 4 years for me to finally get through that, and once i stopped labeling and opened my eyes to the fluidness sexuality, i could see i liked girls again. especially queer and question youth please don’t let tumblr trends force you to label yourself! my relationship with the label bisexual is just as complicated as anyone’s and i wish i was told that so i could come to terms with that earlier! no one is a perfect mold of a label ok! don’t change yourself to feel accepted! don’t worry! it’s gonna be alright!

factual/historical side that brought me to that conclusion:

basically what spurned this is that i’ve been reading up on lgbt history a lot in the past months for a fic i’m writing, and the craziest thing is writing the whole thing without any labels. it’s really opened my eyes at how fluid and arbitrary everything is, and writing characters coming to terms with their sexuality without having the labels we use today is just something that made me think a lot, and reminded me how terrible they were for me. we’re attracted to certain people and the likes of gender and it’s so so so complicated.

and then come here and i see people on here get so frustrated and stressed over not having a label (and i know deep down all they're looking for is some kind of acceptance) and i was there once, and it just wasn’t worth it in retrospect. i couldn’t figure who i was until i dropped it and lived my life for a bit, and it came to me finally. i mean hell, it still is. this kind of things a life journey, huh?

edit: i kind of wanted to elaborate on the historical side if it’ll help anyone, but basically sga was explained under the “sexual inversion theory” in the late 19th and early 20th century. basically, it explained women who liked women as having “the masculine soul, heaving in the female bosom” and vice versa for men. lgbt people’s umbrella term was inverts or a psuedo-third sex, though with the research i’ve done it seems invert was a lukewarm word that was used against them (even more unfashionable and derogatory were the words pervert and sodomite) and they preferred the terms “lesbian” “fairy” “fag” and “pansy” depending on their role in the society. (let it also be known men who slept with men but assumed the “masculine role” of topping were not considered gay in their society until the changing roles of masculinity said it was, in hyper-binary conservative growth seen in the 1930s and 1940s. it was common enough for men who would traditionally be seen as heterosexual in their time to seek men for sex, if the women were taken or they didn’t particularly care where they came, and as long as they topped.) today the sexual inversion theory most resembles transgenderism, but at the time it was treated in the same light as homosexual practices and inclinations. because of the pervasiveness of the theory and acceptance of it in academic and q*ueer circles, many gay men and women found it much easier to adopt the other genders mannerisms and fashions. modern day trans individuals would be right at home (albeit probably at a grander scale) with their cis lgb friends. many sga people also took names from other genders as well as changed pronouns to be referred to in their q*eer communities as it was just part of their culture. today it looks really backwards and odd but i think this really summarizes the fluidity of gender and sexuality and our relationship with it :”)

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This is Molly's angsty, artsy author pose. Thanks @noemi.anais.sophie for the scarf and your mad crochet skills. Otherwise known as... New blog update! http://typebplusjourney.blogspot.com/2017/03/i-am-me.html?m=1 #typebplusjourney