Okay confession
(first time doing this so I’m a little late)
I really like this girl I’ve been talking to, but we had an argument. I know we could still probably work it out it’s just I would have to apologize and I don’t want to because I wasn’t in the wrong 💔. What do I do?
Well first of all I would say that if you are having the kinds of arguments that potentially end friendships/relationships and you're still only in the "talking to" stage, it's probably not gonna work out anyway that's really not a good sign.
But as to the question of who apologizes, there's a few things to consider.
I don't actually know what the argument was about. But when you say you weren't in the wrong, does that mean they *were* in the wrong, or is it a case where you both have reason to believe you were right? Because if they are objectively wrong, why won't *they* apologize, and do you really want to be around a person who never apologizes? because I am telling you from experience that is exhausting and will make you feel crazy.
Another question is, how big a deal was the thing you were arguing about actually? Sometimes it's worth it to apologize for something silly just to keep the peace, but if it's an actual big deal and you know you were right, apologizing sends the wrong message and you'll probably just end up having the same fight again later on because you still believe whatever it is you believe. But again, even if it was just something silly, while it might be easy and fine to apologize even if you weren't wrong, it's a bad sign when a silly argument makes somebody (or both of you) cut off communication entirely. It doesn't speak to a lot of maturity on either person's part, frankly.
And again there is also the possibility that you actually *are* wrong and just don't know it or don't want to admit it, im sorry but I don't know the details so I have to consider the possibility. And sometimes we can be right about a subject but wrong in the way we present it or treat people when arguing about it. In which case, yeah, you should apologize for the bad behavior if not the actual subject of the argument.
Every argument is different tbh. But in my experience, most arguments between people who care about each other end up deserving apologies from both sides. If there is any part of this argument that you do feel bad about, you should apologize for those parts. If this other girl won't apologize for their own faults in the argument too then they probably are not mature enough for whatever you are trying to have with them.
