You know, after finally moving out of my parents house when I lived with them for over 23 years.... (I'm 25 now)
Kinda fucked up that not even me ⭐v1ng and $H-ing made them show any kind of genuine care.
All they'd do is make sly comments and then keep going on as if they did nothing wrong and as if I didn't clearly need help, then they get shocked when I would have a meltdown.
Kinda fucked up some of us had to go above and beyond just to get some kind of something from our parents and still get nothing.
They wonder why I don't talk to them anymore, but I think it's so obvious.
Anytime I had a mental health problem they'd offer to take me to therapy but then complain about how they had to drive me there if I said yes, or they'd refuse to take me anywhere where I could get a real diagnosis often ignoring all of my actual problems and making me feel like I'm an attention seeker like my sister, just making up behaviors for no reason, so even to this day if I have a mental breakdown I hear a voice in my head making fun of me and accusing me of faking my legitimate pain. They tried to make my genuine mental struggles out to be attention seeking behavior when in reality they shouldn't have been so overly neglectful.
They made it impossible for me to ask them for any kind of help, and this is why I can't ask anyone for help and I feel so uncomfortable doing so, I'll let myself get to rock bottom before ever asking for help.
I just think if you see your child struggling with 3ating, $H-ing, hair picking, and obvious signs of depression and autism, and your first and only thought is how it's attention seeking behavior and there's nothing actually wrong with your child, does that make one a narcissist? Neglectful and abusive? Idk it says a lot about them that I can't fully put into words, but I feel like those of you who know will understand.
To the people who's parents actually care when you aren't 3ating or mentally struggling, just know many of us will never know what that's like and we have to just deal with it, move on, or go no contact. At the very least they show concern, my parents would let the world burn and fall apart before they ever show care about anyone but themselves.
