Hello, I am a recently out heteromantic asexual and I have a friend who has always had a crush on me, but I have never been sexually or romantically attracted to him. Sometimes I feel like my feelings are wrong though since everyone always tells me I should marry him or that we act like a couple, and it makes me feel icky. Also I came out to him but he never brings up my asexuality so idk if he even knows what it means or would have a crush on me if he knew. I just need validation that my feelings of not wanting to date him are valid, since everyone in my life makes me feel selfish or guilty, like I’m lying to myself and should give him a chance because we’re “perfect for each other” in everyone else’s eyes.
You are entirely valid in your feelings, and no one has any right to tell you otherwise. You have no obligations to be romantically attracted to anyone, even if they feel that way towards you. No one knows your emotions better than you do, so don’t let them get you down anon. You are so incredibly valid, and you always will be :)
