#vbfanswers

[dauntlessardor]

Daffodil and Rhododendron :)

Daffodil: What’s the most thoughtful present you’ve ever received?

This is a good question.. and I really honestly don’t know. Uhh…my old best friend was the very first friend to celebrate my birthday on my birthday other than immediate family. I’ll never forget that :)

Rhododendron: What’s the scariest dream you’ve ever had?

It’s one I’ll never forget ever in my life and I had it years ago. I had a gun and was trying to stop some guy from doing something and the shot ricocheted off of something and hit my mom and I watched her die and I couldn’t save her no matter what I did.

ANDISENTYOUASNAPCHATJERK.

[dauntlessardor]

Aurora :)

…this is unexpected. I never considered her as me.

I’d probably touch the needle too. Can’t lie. But I’m taking this as “comes off as naive and sweet but breaks the rules when she finds something interesting.” Which I’m totally awesome with. :D

[dauntlessardor]

You are so beautiful :)

Aww.. thank you so much, kind anon!! :)

[dauntlessardor]

Tbh I think you look like the girl who plays Allison on pretty little liars, you're so pretty :)

I had to look her up because I don’t watch that show, lol. I personally don’t see the resemblance (and she is super pretty, btw), but thank you so much! :)

[dauntlessardor]

Some Of your fav blogs?

I feel like I’m going to leave people out, ergghh… Um.. blog and/or personality wise I love (in no particular order):

imgonnamakeachange

phosphorescentt

health-gasm

happyvibeshappylife

dcruzer

sweatyeah

hihelloxo

elisetheviking

paigepicc

deadliftdolly

fatmaninalittlesuit

therealbarbielifts

heavychevydeerhunter

[dauntlessardor]

I wanted to let you know that you're not alone, and even though I sort of have the hang of it (adulting), that's on a really really really good day. Most of the time I have no idea what I'm doing and I don't want to deal with anything and I don't want to DO anything, I just want to sit in my room and listen to my music and explore my interests without having to worry or care about anything else. Adulting sucks, and I'm almost thirty.

I never realized this was in my inbox because I’m always on mobile and almost never click on my inbox because I normally don’t get messages! I’m so sorry!

Adulting does suck. So much. I’m starting to learn that even people who seem to have it all figured out really don’t, they’re just going through the motions just like everyone else. It’s just hard to accept that we’re getting older, I suppose.

[dauntlessardor]

What are you doing to lose weight? How many calories? What kind if workouts? How often how long?

Uhm… I feel like this is fishing for a “short cut”. And like you want to do exactly what I’m doing because I’m having progress. So I just want to throw it out there that what works for me won’t work for everyone and everyone’s body reacts differently to everything so just figure out what works for you and don’t focus on numbers so much.

Most of my progress has come from NOT focusing on wanting progress as much as I have in the past. It has come from knowing that it will happen and I just need to focus on being a happy person.

I work with a personal trainer once a week and then exercise 2-3 more days a week on my own, if that. I do not count calories regularly because it is a very bad habit for me, but I know how many calories my body requires to function (note: this is different for everyone! Please calculate your own BMR and TDEE and even IIFYM to understand what your body requires to function daily instead of using someone else’s numbers!). I follow a 5k training app and do strength circuits given to me by my trainer. I normally don’t exercise for more than 45 minutes to an hour, sometimes I only go for 30 minutes. It just depends on the day and how my body is feeling.

Part of my progress has been listening to my body. I have been sick a couple times since February and when I got sick I sat the fuck down and didn’t force it to do what it wasn’t ready to do. Do not think that you have to work out when you’re sick. Your body is already doing it’s best job to make you better. Don’t screw that up because you want progress. Sometimes progress means sitting down and getting better.

[dauntlessardor]

I really don't wanna eat take out food anymore cause I'm trying to loose weight and I do indulge when I want to but for me take out food just isn't worth it 99% of the time. But oh my god like every Friday my parents get take away and tomorrow my friend is coming round and she said let's order pizza and I honestly don't know how to say no. I really don't want pizza tomorrow cause I ate badly today so how can I suggest we eat something else without saying I'm trying to lose weight?

I’m so sorry that I never responded to this when you sent it to me. I just realized it was in my inbox as I’ve been on mobile for at least five days now. I sincerely apologize.

Anyways, here’s my thought on this and I hope it’s not too late.

With your parents, just don’t eat with them! Make your own food! Boil some chicken or throw it in the oven or do some pork chops or something. Eat a giant salad with eggs and nuts on it. Throw some green beans in a pot — it takes like 10 minutes to cook. On days your family eats take out, just make something simple and easy! You just have to look up recipes or basically make plain-looking meals. One time I boiled chicken and some pasta and put a touch of garden salsa on it and it was freaking delicious.

With your friend, I’m not really sure why you’d be concerned about letting them know you’re wanting to lose weight. It’s not something to be ashamed of at all! Unless you’re already underweight or you’re taking unhealthy measures to lose weight. On days like this, and assuming you’re not doing this unhealthily, you have two options: 1) eat the pizza and have fun because it’s only one night and will not kill you at all or 2) tell her you’d rather have something else and throw out ideas until you come to an agreement. And if she finds out it’s because you wanna lose weight, big whoop. She’s gonna figure it out eventually.

I wish you the best! :)