#vent calls

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I don't wanna let go of being a girl but I also want to be a girl :(

You can be a girl and not a girl at the same time, if you want.

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This is more of a rant, sorry ,:3

But as a trans person who both doesn't want to get any surgeries or to go on hormones, I will sometimes get people telling me I'm not trans enough due to that. Like I'm pretty apathetic towards my body and voice to the point I just don't care about it y'know? And people will tell me or imply that I'm not actually trans because of that! Idk I just wish that people would mind their own fucking business and not try dictating what I call myself

Rants are welcome, no need for apologies. You are very valid and not wanting a medical transition doesn’t change that. People should absolutely mind their own business.

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my mother is homophobic and doesn’t know I’m bisexual. She’s a toxic Christian Karen kind of person.

One time I made a joke about being a lesbian and for the whole day she kept wanting me to confirm that I was joking.

That’s a tough situation, I hope you’re able to be yourself soon.

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ii'm sorry i don't know if this is a rant or a call for advice but i just need to get my thoughts out

i'm a trans guy (17) trying to shop for new bras since i've had the same ones since i was like 12. they don't really fit and keep slipping and it's just super annoying at this point so i took it upon myself to get some new ones. the thing is, i hate bra shopping in the first place. my chest is probably one of the things i'm most dysphoric about. i'd even been making progress, learning to love myself and i've actually been looking in the mirror and not hating myself, but i feel like all these years of progress just got thrown out the window.

i've already ruled out going bra shopping irl, for multiple reasons including 1. i've already come out to my mom and she's not supportive and has just been trying to ignore that i'm trans so i'm 90% sure she'd be super feminizing in the process and it would just upset me (plus i can't drive just yet so i literally cannot leave the house without her and i'm not allowed to have a credit card) and 2. i could get one of my supportive siblings to take me but i'm terrified of the employees making it horribly dysphoric

so i attempted to do it myself. i finally got around to taking my measurements and it sucked and was super uncomfortable but whatever right? i got through it and that's all that matters. then i gound out based on the measurements that i'm a triple fucking D and that almost sent me spiraling into self hatred. but i pushed forward!!! whatever i need to do to just get this over with

so i went online to do some research into what build i want, wires or no wires, design, etc and just. everywhere i turn it just makes me fel worse and worse. "women's sports bras" "feminine, sexy fit" "lacy and delicate"

i really just want to lay down and cry for the rest of time because this is so fucking awful. all the designs are lacy and slim fit and wpuldn't even fucking fit me, much less support me and i fucking hate myself and i hate the stupid fucking bra industry and i want to give up on this stupid endeavor anyway

sorry to vent in your inbox actually i just either don't have any other trans men to rant to and the ones i do know don't have large chests or anythig and uhhhggggg sorry

No need to apologise, vents are very welcome, and I hope you’ve had some luck.

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The pain of being transmasc but fictionkinning a character that’s transfem… who the fiddlesticks do I be?!??!!??

You can still be transmasc.

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im calling yet again

people keep fucking saying they dont believe me or shit like that when i say im aroace (technically im aegoromantic, aegosexual, demiromantic, arospike, asexaul, aromantic) but i am so sick of people not believing me. and i could be talking to someone and a bit of it is taken very out of context. i wish other people would just see me as what i goddamn am

Vent call.

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I know you don't need to label yourself, but I've been looking at a handful and they're looking back at me like I just crossed into the wrong neighborhood.

Jokes aside, I think I might have found a new facet to my identity and I'm scared

Finding new parts of your identity can be scary, taking it slow might be a good start.

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I think I might be agender?

Up til now I've identified as a cis woman, but I've realized that I just don't give a shit about my gender? Like I'd probably just say woman to most people cuz idc enough to explain it all out, but like I've never been particularly feminine, and I really don't like feminine terms like "ma'am" or "miss" but "mister" doesn't feel right but "sir" does?

I don't ever wear dresses or skirts or even women's t shirts (I primarily wear jeans and mens t shirts and sweatshirts).

I don't exactly feel gender dysphoria beyond calling myself a woman feels weird and girl feels infantilizing. I've tried several pronouns online and I'm most comfortable with she/her.

But I just genuinely just wanna be seen as a person, not a man or a woman or even nb. I just wanna be.

idk I just kinda needed to tell someone and my family is religious and conservative and wouldn't be accepting.

No worries, vents are more than welcome.