He also talks about how he could never understand his mother before seeing Luca on the grid; he knew she was of course scared, but he never truly understood that feeling until he found himself in the same situation as his mother before: watching his brother, Luca, racing.
I: Can I ask you about your relationship with your brother Luca … you had your dad, Graziano, but who’s more stressed? You with your dad Graziano or Luca with you?
V: So, allora, maybe my brother with me … coz with Graziano in the end it wasn’t that bad, even tho the relationship between a child and their parent when the child becomes an athlete, a high-level athlete, becomes difficult.
I: Why? What are the things that make that relationship so difficult? What is it? Is it the father’s demand/pretense?
V: First of all, this is a sport with bikes so a parent is of course scared; it’s not like football or basketball, parents here are scared. So every parent is a little bit in between, between wanting their child to become a strong rider, a world champion even… and at the same time they know that’s dangerous … so they’re there, in between. Then sometimes it’s about children trying to fulfil what their parents couldn't do … so maybe the fathers arrived till a certain point and then maybe they hope for their child to be the one, the one that's actually gonna make it. So it’s not an easy situation. But I see with our riders, with my brother … with my mother even … I saw how scared she was when I was leaving for races, but I had never truly understood her, I was looking from the other point of view. I was the child with their mother saying “go slow!”, a very normal situation-
I: Even before a grand prix? Your mother was saying “go slow” even before a Grand Prix?
V: It was always “Be careful! Win, but be careful!”
I: “Win, but be careful!”
V: Yes, “Go fast but be careful”... “Go fast but not too much” *laughing* But now that I see my brother on the grid, I understand my mother. It’s scary. And one can say not only bikes, there are many dangerous sports but still.
I: Also the story of parents being coaches for their children, especially in tennis, for example … parents that are also their children’s coach
V: Yes, it’s very difficult. With my dad, for example … a parent always wants to teach their children or give their opinion, but I didn’t find myself very at ease with that. He was always coming to the races to cheer for me and everything, but I’ve always tried to keep him away from my working team … my team and I working in the box together. Also, you know, in motogp during the race you’re on your own, but it’s still a team sport, like a football team