Please respond I feel extremely sad I’m gay and i fell in love with my straight best friend... it’s been 5 years and I just can’t get over the fact that she will never love me in the same way I do. I still find myself having conversations with her in my head, memories are killing me.. I suffer from really bad anxiety, my moms sick and she’s capable of destroying me with words, looks.. she’s violent too, please help me I feel so tired and I have this pressure in my chest like this huge weight
Hi there,
Thank you for sending in your askto mental health advice. I am so happy that you came to us for advice. I hopeto help you as much as I can. I’m so sorry that you are going through this. Fallingin love with someone who doesn’t feel the same way hurts so much. I have beenthrough this before and I hope to give you some good advice.
Do youknow for a fact that she is 100% straight? She may have not told anybody thatshe is curious. It might help to tell her even if she is straight. It will helpto get the feeling off of your chest. Some people think that it may make the relationshipweird, but you’ve been friends for so long, I know you can be honest with her.
It mayhurt to say, but there are tons of other people out there. Focusing onsomething that will never happen is just going to make you more upset. Youshould branch out and talk to some more people. You may end up finding a newlove of your life. It’s not easy but I think it could be very beneficial foryou.
Anxietysucks and it doesn’t help if you have a parent who isn’t supportive. Are youable to seek out help for this? Like do you have another adult you could talkto, if your mother won’t help you? I think it would really help if you seek outprofessional help. It is the best thing that has happened to me so I suggestyou try it as well.
I know that you can get through this! Did you know that we havea live chat service that is available to anyone who needs it? To speak withsomeone you can send in a request for someone to get online or see if an adminhas posted that they are currently online. If you feel like you are inimmediate danger, please call emergency services and/or go to the nearesthospital. I also recommend looking at our “I havean Emergency” page. Feel free to send in another ask if you feel that youhave additional questions or need additional help.
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