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Hey, what exactly is ASD? All I ever hear about it are the symptoms, but what classifies it as ASD?

Hi there,

Thank you for sending in your ask to mental health advice. I am so happy that you came to us for advice. I hope to help you as much as I can. ASD is Autism Spectrum Disorder. ASD is often misunderstood, so I’d be happy to clear up what it really is.  

People often refer to Autism as on a “spectrum”. It is explained like this because each person who has autism may experience it differently than another person with autism. It used to be separated by autism and the term “Asperger's syndrome” but now it is better understood that people can be on any part of the spectrum and they lumped it all into one disorder. Asperger’s is often used to refer to someone who has mild autism. Some people experience autism with extreme severity, which is also called low functioning. Someone like this may be non-verbal or have behavior issues. Someone who is high functioning may be able to live “normally” and without many symptoms or their symptoms are easily controlled. It all depends on the person and the unique way they experience this disorder.  

People with autism have the potential to live normal lives without their disorder causing them problems. Some people need more assistance than others. This is a unique disorder that affects social interaction and patterns of behavior. It is seemed to be caused by genetics. There is still a lot to be learned about Autism Spectrum Disorder.  

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I am incredibly touch starved, it's not something that came from quarantine, I started to really take note of it and take it seriously near the end of high school. It gets to the point where I get tactile hallucinations of someone else running a hand along my arm or hand, or just someone else's weight pressed up against me. Now, in light of quarantine I can't really see anyone in person and alleviate these feelings. What other ways are there to cope?

Hi there,

Thank you for sending in your ask to mental health advice. I am so happy that you came to us for advice. I hope to help you as much as I can. I totally understand that need for human contact during these hard times. I am super lucky that I have my significant other that I live with, but other people aren’t as lucky. I can give you some tips that could help with this need.

One idea that comes to mind is to start by getting a heating pad or a warm water bottle. Then you can cuddle with some blankets while being close to something warm. This can help to give you the feeling of the warmth of another body when you can’t access that right now.  

I also would suggest doing what I said above and then doing a video chat or just calling a friend or loved one. Some people really need that social interaction but are unable to get it the usual way. Maybe talking with someone would also help with this need for touch.  

Another thing to think about is you are not alone in what you are feeling. Everybody on this earth is basically going through a similar issue. We are here for you and you will get through this!

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I'm balding really bad, I'm nearly 100% bald on top and I hate it. Its embarassing. I've been bald for almost 6 years, everyone knows I'm bald as I shave my head consistently. My gf likes it but I just hate how I look. Sure I can acknowledge that I look okay bald but I'm young, and it is a fact that everyone in the world looks better with hair. I feel I'm being cheated out of my life and I haven't been able to get over it. idk how to accept it. I dont have money to fix it. I just dont know.

Hi there,

Thank you for sending in your ask to mental health advice. I am so happy that you came to us for advice. I hope to help you as much as I can. Also, sorry for the late reply! We currently have a large inbox of asks but are working hard to lower that number.

I can understand that this is making you upset. It is hard to accept certain things about our bodies, hair included. The thing is that this is something that you can’t really control but you can learn to accept it and feel better about yourself. It’s not going to be an easy thing to do but I can give you some tips on what you can do to feel better about yourself.  

I think a big thing about your issue is that your girlfriend doesn’t judge you because of it. She loves you for who you are and being bald does not change that. Nobody else is going to think differently because of it either. If someone does make a comment about it then they have issues of their own and are probably just being mean. You don’t need to feel ashamed for something you didn’t choose.

Something you can also try is joining a support group for other young people dealing with baldness. You could probably find a group online. You can connect with others dealing with this issue and get some tips.  

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My mother is so rude, she just said to my niece (5yrs old) to get up from the floor because she "isn't fucked in the brain". How the hell can you talk to a kid like that? She often calls her retarded, she used to do this to me too when I was young. My sister ain't any better

Hi there,

Thank you for sending in your ask to mental health advice. I am so happy that you came to us for advice. I hope to help you as much as I can. Also, sorry for the late reply! We currently have a large inbox of asks but are working hard to lower that number.

It is not right for your mother to speak to anybody like that. It’s even worse that it is a family member. She doesn’t sound like she is very educated on how to speak about mental health or even just common manners when speaking to a child.  

It seems that your sister probably is like this due to how your mother treated both of you. You have realized that this is wrong behavior so that is good on your part. I would suggest talking to one or both of them about how this isn’t good for your niece. Learning how to talk positively to children will help them to develop into adults who treat others with respect. You could show them this link that talks about tips for talking positively to kids. You can also do your research for the benefits of positive speaking and the potential issues that using bad language can cause.

I know that you can get through this! Did you know that we have a live chat service that is available to anyone who needs it? To speak with someone, you can send in a request for one of the live chat admins to talk with. You can also check and see if an admin has already posted that they are currently online. If you feel like you are in immediate danger, please call emergency services and/or go to the nearest hospital. I also recommend looking at our “I have an Emergency” page. Feel free to send in another ask if you feel that you have any more questions or need additional help.

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I asked you a while ago about how to help a friend suffering from PTSD and I wanted to say your advice has been really helpful. She’s doing a lot better and we’re more than just friends now, so thank you Willow for answering my question so well, and thank you to everyone else here. You’re doing a great job

Hey there!

You are absolutely welcome for the advice. I will pass this message along to the rest of the group. We love hearing how we have made other’s lives better!

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Please respond I feel extremely sad I’m gay and i fell in love with my straight best friend... it’s been 5 years and I just can’t get over the fact that she will never love me in the same way I do. I still find myself having conversations with her in my head, memories are killing me.. I suffer from really bad anxiety, my moms sick and she’s capable of destroying me with words, looks.. she’s violent too, please help me I feel so tired and I have this pressure in my chest like this huge weight

Hi there,

Thank you for sending in your askto mental health advice. I am so happy that you came to us for advice. I hopeto help you as much as I can. I’m so sorry that you are going through this. Fallingin love with someone who doesn’t feel the same way hurts so much. I have beenthrough this before and I hope to give you some good advice.

               Do youknow for a fact that she is 100% straight? She may have not told anybody thatshe is curious. It might help to tell her even if she is straight. It will helpto get the feeling off of your chest. Some people think that it may make the relationshipweird, but you’ve been friends for so long, I know you can be honest with her.

               It mayhurt to say, but there are tons of other people out there. Focusing onsomething that will never happen is just going to make you more upset. Youshould branch out and talk to some more people. You may end up finding a newlove of your life. It’s not easy but I think it could be very beneficial foryou.

               Anxietysucks and it doesn’t help if you have a parent who isn’t supportive. Are youable to seek out help for this? Like do you have another adult you could talkto, if your mother won’t help you? I think it would really help if you seek outprofessional help. It is the best thing that has happened to me so I suggestyou try it as well.

I know that you can get through this! Did you know that we havea live chat service that is available to anyone who needs it? To speak withsomeone you can send in a request for someone to get online or see if an adminhas posted that they are currently online. If you feel like you are inimmediate danger, please call emergency services and/or go to the nearesthospital. I also recommend looking at our “I havean Emergency” page. Feel free to send in another ask if you feel that youhave additional questions or need additional help.

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We have a really important paper due in 3 days, and my group is lagging behind. I'm really scared about it. It's a really large part of our grade and I can't even edit it properly.

Hey there,

Thank you for sending in your ask to mental health advice. Iam so happy that you came to us for advice. I hope to help you as much as Ican. Sorry that we could not get to your message in a timely manner. We have anever-growing inbox and a limited amount of admins. I can give you advice for ifyou have a similar situation like this in the future.

               Wereyou able to pick your own partners for this assignment? Maybe next time askyour teacher if you can be with someone who is reliable. Another good idea isto tell your teacher that your partners are being like this and that you don’twant to get a bad grade because of them. If you are doing what work you aresupposed to do, then you shouldn’t lose points for it.

               Anotheroption is that you can talk to your partners for the assignment. Maybe theyneeded help with something and were afraid to ask. I really think that if yourteammates wont listen, then your teacher would understand.

I know that you can get through this! Did you know that wehave a live chat service that is available to anyone who needs it? To speakwith someone you can send in a request for someone to get online or see if anadmin has posted that they are currently online. If you feel like you are inimmediate danger, please call emergency services and/or go to the nearesthospital. I also recommend looking at our “I have an Emergency”page. Feel free to send in another ask if you feel that you have additionalquestions or need additional help.

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