I'm not sure if you will see this but I hope you do.
(And this is for all the others out there that have lost friends because of getting married and having children)
I saw your post about losing friends and such when you got engaged and pregnant. And I just want to tell you that same exact thing happened to me. Being young as I was when my husband (boyfriend at the time) decided we knew what we wanted and became engaged it was like the light went out in a few of my close friendships. Immediately they found it as a major turn off and just.. left me. I mean they tried after that but I knew it was fake. You can't force a friendship with someone if they don't want it. The problems only got worse when I became pregnant. Most saw it as foolish and awful. I was young. How dare I take that leap and create a life? they had said. And the friends who have left me have moved on with their lives and gotten other friends and been on and off again in relationships. And thats fine. its THEIR life. But because I grew up too fast, according to them, I was excluded from their experiences. I'll admit I was bitter for a while. I just didn't understand how people could be like that. And now I realize looking back that I really think some were jealous. I was young and I found my end so quickly. I knew where my life was going to lead and I wasn't afraid. I grabbed a hold with two hands and held on. And the funny thing about this is that a few of them approached me at our high school reunion and were interested in how my life was. They were curious about the marriage that has lasted me about seven years now. And the four kids my husband and I have together. They were asking questions about how we can be so happy.
You're not alone. And I'm here if you need me. :)
