#wdyanswer

[wdya]

i love you and i hope youre doing okay

this made me really happy!! thank you kind friend ❤❤❤❤ I am doing pretty okay, actually! I haven't really gotten personal on here in a long time so:

I'd say I'm more in touch with myself than I've ever been. I'm learning my limits and getting good at handling myself and understanding the ways I process things differently. the past six months or so I've been building an identity for myself, the first sense of who I am that I've ever really had. I'm back in therapy, I have a solid group of loving friends at school, I even recently reconnected with some old friends from home. I'm not much more confident yet, and my self esteem and typical mood are still very low, but I do feel more at ease and way more stable. Since September I think I can count the serious breakdowns I've had on one hand - and I used to get them multiple times a day.

tl;dr 2018 was a year of healing and learning that I desperately needed, and the future doesn't always feel so impossible anymore

[wdya]

what are ur favourite things when it comes to being a girl

oh boy oh boy so like. I love love dresses and skirts and I normally just wear regular casual feminine clothes now but I love that too and like. socializing as a girl!! talking to girls and being seen as one of them!!! and casual physical intimacy and cuddles and friendly head kisses and hand holding is so much more normalized with girls and I thrive off that stuff. and hearing my new name!! hearing people look at me and (even if it’s obvious I’m amab) guessing she pronouns anyway!! and I love femininity and lipstick and necklaces and and and

living as a girl in college has obviously led to some terrible encounters with both misogyny and transmisogyny, and dysphoria can be crushing and causes intense dissociation and paranoia for me, but now I have good days when I just feel like me for the first time in my life. it hasn’t solved my depression or anything, that’s still been as bad as ever, but looking in the mirror and seeing the outline of my bra and my curly hair that’s now halfway down my back. I feel like I’m finally moving toward a better version of myself.

[wdya]

guess polyamorous trans lesbian is more interesting than boring straight white boy

lol do I know you. but you’re right, I’d take the 41% suicide attempt rate, 30-50% dating violence rate, 22% police harassment rate (and that’s as a white person), and 57% family rejection rate over being boring any day

[wdya]

Are you a Gold Star lesbian? (Just in case you don't know what it means, a Gold Star lesbian is a lesbian that has never had the sex with a guy and would never have any intentions of ever doing so)

lmfao was my answer to this less than 10 hours ago (about how it's a bullshit copypasta) unsatisfactory

[wdya]

Are you a Gold Star lesbian? (Just in case you don't know what it means, a Gold Star lesbian is a lesbian that has never had the sex with a guy and would never have any intentions of ever doing so)

omfg I finally got the copypasta. I've always been curious if this is a bot or individual assholes or one particularly dedicated mad lad or what. probably every lesbian I've ever followed, definitely all the ones with a lot of followers, have gotten this at some point in the last like four years.

this is such a stupid thing and I want to assure any of my friends, especially if they ever get sent this, that no one has actually used the term gold star lesbian with sincerity in like five years at least and it's misogynistic and lesbophobic and transphobic for easily googleable reasons. I have no idea why people still get sent this, it's like a baffling cryptid villain on this website

[wdya]

3., 20., 28. for the wlw asks :)

eee thank you!!

3. denim wlw or leather wlw

leather wlw

20. make her a playlist wlw or write her a poem wlw

I deeply appreciate either more than almost anything else, but between them, probably write her a poem wlw

28. rom-com film wlw or sci-fi film wlw

sci-fi film wlw

[wdya]

8, 15, 20, 22, 24

8. Who are you currently crushing on? Describe her.

I’m always crushing just a little bit on every single girl I know tbh; that’s just the natural lesbian life. but I have a couple more proper ones on people I’ve been getting to know lately, plus a stubborn one on a closer friend which just hasn’t been willing to go away yet. I don’t think anyone’s interested back tho

15. What do you look for in a girl?

respect, understanding, communism…

20. What’s your favourite type of kiss?

two come to mind - quick ones at red lights after you randomly get hit with a lil wave of love. and long ones when you just can’t pull each other close enough.

22. Have you ever been to pride? If yes, what was it like?

yes!! multiple times in philly. it’s always overwhelming but exciting and empowering!! there’s something so magical about being surrounded by people like us. they usually barricade the party behind a literal paywall though, so I haven’t been to the best parts. last time, I got involved in a counterprotest against a Westboro Baptist Church setup.

24. Biggest turn on in the bedroom?

roughness

[wdya]

20 | 66 | 68

20: What would you name your future daughter?

idk but I like the name emily

66: Were your last three kisses from the same person?

yes

68: Would you rather sleep with someone else or alone?

with someone