#we're all problematic

[squishyharold]

okay, so... satire only works when the joke isn’t at the expense of the victims. And I think people are having a hard time right now on figuring out at whose expense this joke was. To me it was clearly Roy Moore but I get that other people are not so sure. It could either be: “I threw him out before he did something” OR ”I threw him out after he did something”

In the end, what this joke told me though is: Harry would never let a person like that attend his concerts. Because young girls are safe with him. I think he has proven that more than once.

The rest... he’s working on, I hope.

[steverogersnotebook]

writersblockstanfever replied to your post “Ok, then maybe you should take a look at the posting there are a lot...”

hey, my friend - I just found the post, although it's not the one he liked - the post is under whovian_rum_ and it says: "I like my women like I like my wine - 12 years old and stored in my basement"

Thank you for that! admittedly, that particular ‘joke’ is eew. however, I agree with @viperbranium​ in this post  “I think he’s probably thinking about it like

 ‘haha yes that’s how I look’

rather than him wanting to have sex with school girls, and also he was liking a ton of those posts, probably not even thinking very hard about it”

[queerzaza]

Zaza I slipped up so bad and exposed a secret that someone trusted me with to a few of our friends. It's not some huge secret, but this is someone who means honestly the entire world to me and I don't know how to live with the fact that I messed up so bad like this. I'm afraid he won't trust me anymore and I'm also so worried because he isn't messaging me back. He said he doesn't want me to be upset and I know that we'll be okay but I have so much trouble giving space and waiting (1/2)

for things to cool down in these situations. I know I have to accept that things like this happen sometimes and it doesn't mean I'm a horrible person and that I have to be mature and wait it out, but I just don't know how to handle myself right now because I'm soooooo upset that I fucked up so badly. And I'm just wondering if you have any advice as an adult who's made mistakes, because I can't see the end of this right now and it feels so bad.

yup, turtledove, i too have fucked up with someone i loved and we’re not alone in tht. we all make mistakes, but it’s what we do afterwards tht truly matters. if we’re fortunate, the ppl who pay for them, eventually forgive us. you kno you need to give him time and space-so keep it up. do not contact him, until he reaches out to you first.

i’m assuming you already apologized, so let him have all the space he needs to process his emotions. i kno you’re super upset at yourself for messing up, but this is v important. you made a slip, you apologized, now it’s time to move on. 

first, how are you going to make ammends? come up with ideas about how to rebuild the trust. it’s not going to happen overnight, but it can happen. next, find something else to focus on and work to keep your mind there. srsly, each time your mind slips, tell it to stop tht harmful train of thought and move back.

the more you work on purposely shifting your thoughts back to whatever your new interest is-the better. now, this isn’t easy for everyone, esp ppl with anxiety. if tht’s the case, then i highly rec you find someone to talk to and get it all out. obvs a mental health professional would be best, but do what you can.

there will be an end to this. esp as it sounds like he’s going to get over this sooner than later. hopefully you’ll be getting to work rebuilding tht trust in a few days. wishing you all the good luck, dove.

[1hoseokie]

I get that Leigh Anne's bf is trash because of what he said, but LM have all done and said problematic things as well. As fans we immediately forgive them and pretend that they didn't do anything. We keep bringing up what everyone else has done, but don't hold LM accountable, too. Trust me I'm not excusing her trashy boyfriend, but we trash him and reblog LM (especially Perrie) like their not problematic as well.

i literally dragged leigh in my tags on that post and i drag them (lm) all the time like im allowed to be upset and not want to see her bf lol

[queerzaza]

Hi Zaza! I have made a big mistake. I wrote a personal post without any context. I didn't mean it wrong but people understand it wrong way and now they're writing me a negative comments to it. I feel pretty bad for it but these blogs are mostly a 'discourse' blogs and I don't feel like I want to reblog it again on my blog with an explanation. Should I delete this post or should I keep having it on my blog just to know what is happening around it? Im desperate. I feel like I'm totally bad person.

your blog is your blog. you can put or take down, whatever you want. there is nothing tht says you have to keep something up if you don’t want to. if you wanna delete it- then do it. if it’s still bothering you, then you could make a new post w/ context, but you don’t have to do tht either. good luck dove!

[louiswillian]

NEW PROBLEMATIC LARRIE LIST

everyone

[aloemilk]

I have a question, So a number of ppl in fandom don't like Dumbledore no more because they say he's 'problematic'. But that's not what i'm asking. Do you know of any white,powerful wizard-like character in literature/movies that people haven't gone 'he's not a good guy! he's so problematic!' ? (like Gandalf or Obi-wan Kenobi?) can you think of any that ppl say 'yep, he's a good guy, not problematic at all"

I don’t think so? I mean, I haven’t been active in fandoms other than HP/RHr for a long time (before it was Bones, and no powerful white wizards there, lol), so I don’t really know how fandoms perceive the wizards I know of. Eg, as much as I love LOTR with my soul, I don’t participate in fandom so all I know is my own impression of, say, Gandalf. I have no ideas if people are calling him problematic–although I’m sure he can be considered problematic. 

The thing is, I think all characters can be considered problematic if they are well written. All of us have said “problematic” things at one point or another; it’s just a part of our character and our growth. We’re all sensitive to different things, so we react differently to character’s thoughts and actions and are bound to think some of it is “problematic”. That’s just the way it is, I think.

[cocktailaunt]

danthrusts replied to your post: anonymous asked:Do you consider P...

I know he has joked about molestion before so there’s a problematic thing that has happened but that was in the past

Oh, okay! I didn’t know tbh. Thanks for telling me x