“My Wedding Is In 2 Days… This Is The Text I Wake Up To From My Mother”
“Of course, the mother had no right to invite anyone without coordinating it with the newlyweds – it’s just basic common sense. But often parents of adult children blatantly neglect this common sense, believing that they have the right to decide for them,” says Maria Kryvosheeva, a psychologist and NLP coach, whom Bored Panda got in with touch for a comment.
“And in this sense, it is very important to suppress the slightest attempts to decide anything for you – otherwise, sooner or later, you will find that your parents are starting to control your life, as they did a couple of decades ago. Of course, not all parents act this way, but this is a fairly common pattern.
“In any case, since this man gave up and allowed his mother’s relatives to show up at the reception, it makes sense to have a talk with her later and explain that such behavior is totally unacceptable in the future. I hope he will do so. But for now, I wish the wedding to go without the slightest incident,” Maria sums up.
In the comments on the original post—of course—people supported the author in his indignation, fully sharing the whole range of feelings that overwhelmed him after reading that text. “I can feel the frustration from here, calling someone Mother is the equivalent of your mom calling you by your full name,” someone wrote quite wittily.
Some responders believed that the author was overly accommodating in communicating with his mom—probably wanting to avoid a scandal on the eve of his big day. “Even with the drop out I would have told her that they are not invited,” a commenter claimed. “Hard rule: no introductions at my wedding,” another added. And what do you, our dear readers, think about this story?Readmore