Hi P, I recently followed you and just really appreciate your blog, knowledge and respect to actors. I especially appreciate your mission of just finding the truth. I have a strong opinion about your latest post.
I'm a complete nobody, but had my 15 minutes of fame in 2012 when The Hobbit was coming out; somehow tweeting funny LOTR/Hobbit memes led to retweets, replies and eventually ongoing, super amiable, memorable, respectful and endearing conversations with Graham McTavish, Jed Brophy, Richard Armitage AND Royd Tolkien. Royd actually slid into DMs; I remember googling "pwoar" since it was his opening message and I didn't know Brit English slang. Tldr; I mention this ALL to say: If I EVER was blessed with such an opportunity to even have a split second to converse with a dream actor, acting and talking and behaving like this woman is the utter OPPOSITE of what you want to do. You need to be respectful as fuck, in my opinion if you've somehow gained precious access to open convo, you need to RESPECT IT. Don't abuse it! Don't bombard with messages, don't keep sending things constantly, just don't be that bothersome "fanatic." I feel the second if these actors see how insane and cringe you act (if you act in aforementioned manner), your privileges are just revoked, you're just another "crazy fan" so to speak.
I don't know. I was so thrilled to be talking to these profoundly amazing actors, I walked on eggshells, avoided appearing annoying or obsessed, avoided anything that thwart or hinder the "relationships." I would have never thought to bother them like that online, regardless of any obsession. It truly doesn't make sense to me to act this crazy if/when you're the nUmBeR oNe fan. I am still connected with Royd and I don't fucking message him or bother him ever, ever! Just quietly and consistently support on social media. I just feel if this woman is THAT in love, enraptured, obsessed with Sam and all she wants is to be noticed, his attention, or to show how dedicated a fan she is, etc., she would not ever, ever behave in this manner on her socials. Fuck no. Doing the opposite. Thanks P!
Thanks for sending this and for your kind words!
I know people get excited to interact with their favorite celeb, and sometimes that excitement can go overboard, but it's important to find that fine line. And it looks like you found it.
Sadly, the couple of fans I mentioned recently didn't find that balance and have gone way overboard.
I even found out Emily White, the fan who claimed to have met up with Sam for drinks in Key West, is married has two kids, and has at least 4 fake accounts. At least. I'm sure there are more, but I stopped looking. Some of her fake accounts are even her pretending to be men, all fawning over her, how great she is, and how she should be with Sam. I was able to look at old Tweets and do reverse pic searches, SO many fake pics. I can prove they are fake or bought accounts. Emily has a nice, normal life in Michigan, with family and friends who love her, not sure what's missing that causes her to pretend to be something she's not. And try to get the attention of Sam Heughan, an actor who probably didn't even interact with her when she was an extra on Bloodshot. I hope she finds peace and happiness.
Anyhoo, I appreciate you sharing your experience and kudos to you for not crossing the line into crazy fangirl land.
