#weresehlat

[zenyattasperceptrons]

weresehlat replied to your post: facebook showed me a sponsored post for what was...

The constant dismissal of self-destructive behaviors (alcoholism and other socially-acceptable addictions, sex with people who don’t treat you well for the sake of having sex, etc)

It’s all so insidious and telling

yeah like, the past few years have all been me trying Really Hard to consciously try and get more in touch with my emotions, and that’s come hand in hand with realizing how little our culture supports that? like, so many people im around will say they can’t have fun unless they’re drinking and/or use alcohol to deal with stressful situations and im like........ ok, if that’s where you’re at, that’s where you’re at, but you really need to realize that’s not healthy

grr

[thebibliosphere]

Hey bibliomom. it's been a rough couple months, and if you have the spoons and/or inclination it'd be really really nice to have some affirmation that being ace means I'm included in the queer community. For some reason one of my fav new fandoms seems to be made up of like 80% ace exclusionists and it's been exhausting trying to filter them out of the content I consume. Every new search on a fanart blog that reveals "lmao cishets aren't lgbt" or "asexy mogai cringe" feels like a punch to the gut

Oh, ew :( I’m so sorry your fandom is filled with those toxic people *hugs*

Speaking as a greedy bisexual who just needs to pick a side but is actually Straight™ because I’m married to a man (HA!)—welcome to the queer community. You’ve always belonged. 

There will be those who argue and go out of their way to be excessively mean to try and prove you don’t belong, but those people are wrong and need to take a long hard look at themselves, deal with their internalized hatred and then make some profound apologies.

Exclusionists will always be found on the wrong side of history in the end.

And if anyone takes issue with any of this, you can either reflect on this and change the way you think, or you can leave. Anyone starting shit in my comments or in my inbox will be immediately deleted and blocked. Your hatred isn’t welcome here.

As for filtering these people out, @weresehlat, I dunno what tools you are using, but I find the xkit mass filtering option to be really great. It searches for keywords I don’t want to see and filters out ANY post that contains it. It’s reduced my stress levels of tumblr immensely. Doesn’t work for mobile of course, but it’s something.

[lenaoxton]

@weresehlat i don't play on pc :/ and it's just not the same ,,

[s-leary]

Hey, would you be open to a submission? I read a pretty legit article that's analyzing this week's absolute nonsense and gives a hopeful view of what's to come. It really helped me synthesize everything and stay sane

Of course! Feel free to message me or use my web contact form.

[knicks-knacks]

@weresehlat replied to your post: to friggin’ recap all the HUGE SHIT that happened...

Miss Pauling was probably definitely oogling Zhanna and Zhanna misinterpreted that as her oogling Soldier

honestly i thought that too and I SO wanted to include "Miss P is gay as FUCK" BUT GAH IT WASN'T EXPLICITLY CONFIRMED AND I FELT I COULDN'T HECK

[zenyattasperceptrons]

spottycows replied to your post: okay this might just be one of those things where...

oh worm. one of the main reasons i went to wearing nothing but cute black halloween undies all the time tbh :/

i honestly want to know why everyone who makes ‘womens’ underwear thinks white fabric is like, a good idea, at all,

weresehlat replied to your post: okay this might just be one of those things where...

Honestly?? U right tho. They get blood stained and now I have designated period underwear

lmfao yeah just pick out the worst ones to get even more ruined because then it’s like, whatever

[zenyattasperceptrons]

weresehlat replied to your post: this is a hard post to phrase without offering a...

Honestly, it seems to be coming hand in hand with the worrying trend of the straight-up adoption of conservative rhetoric that’s happening in a lot of ostensibly liberal places trying to be radical. Like, the anti movement started with a couple good ideas (hey pedophilia is bad and shipping minors with adults has some troubling implications, and also fetishization? not cool) and then just fucking ran off into harassing people instead of educating on dangers

yeah most definitely, and like... i think it could have been a pretty alright movement if people had learned to take the comment “i find your methods to be ineffective and actually harmful in a lot of ways” to not be a direct attack on the ideas behind them?

like... i think it can be frustrating for people who want to see drastic results having a lot of people tell them ‘you have to be patient and start conversations and work with the people whose minds you want to change’ because OH BUT THEY’RE NOT GONNA LISTEN AND THEY’RE GONNA GO OFF CONTINUING TO BE HARMFUL IN THE MEANTIME!!!

like. yes, unfortunately, that’s probably going to be true for a while, but if you take the steady approach, you have an okay chance at actually educating people and getting them to genuinely change their minds, and then those people will probably slowly introduce those ideas into their own community and start doing your work as well!

if you decide to just run smear campaigns and insults and ostracize and send death threats to people: you are not going to change! their! minds! you are just going to run them off to do the things they were doing! somewhere you can’t see them! you’re not fixing anything you’re just sweeping things under the rug and calling your house clean EUGHFGHJF

[thebibliosphere]

Hey bibliomom, have you ever heard the song Bare Legged Girls of Glasgow by Icing? I feel like its a song you'd thoroughly enjoy if you haven't, though it's mighty obscure

I have haha, although I can’t seem to find it anywhere to share with the rest of the family (I can’t get the myspace link to work) which is a shame.