#werk blagging

[danzafila]

worked 16hrs yesterday to get this fucking project in on time and then less than 24hrs til it's due, they extend things by a fucking month lmao

[danzafila]

you ever sigh so loudly in a meeting, teams asks if you meant to unmute your microphone?

[danzafila]

why is work So Much

[danzafila]

work rant under the cut you can ignore this lol

same coworker I was complaining about who sends me frantic messages asking where I am if I dare take like 10min to respond to one of her messages (when she REGULARLY fully misses questions I send her....) sent me a frantic IM asking "are you leaving me for two days??????" when she noticed my OOO was up Wed night and I'm still annoyed about it tbh. and then when I got back online yesterday, she hits me with "did you get a chance to recharge?" like. excuse me??? you KNEW I was going for surgery. two days off to recover is not a fucking recharge

I think it hit a nerve with me because she regularly schedules time off, often for WEEKS at a time, just to relax. which often leave me at critical points in projects I'm working that I was hoping for her support on (as we're the only two people in our position, so often rely on each other for support). and these aren't like planned trips/vacations, but her just taking PTO to chill at home and recharge (yet still completely disconnect from work, even when off for multiple weeks). yet I've never COMPLAINED to her about her "leaving me" to fend for myself (even if I've ever felt that way). bc you know I'm not gonna perpetuate shitty work culture expectations like that that you can't take time off or that you're still expected to monitor emails and be responsive while "off" or whatever

(even though when I take time off it's usually super minimal. a day or two at most, working AS I travel and junk, specifically trying to minimize my disruptiveness as much as possible. AND I do still monitor emails/messages. it's literally only (sometimes) when I'm out of the fucking country I'll allow the expectation I won't check/respond to messages. and she has nooo qualms about messaging me while I'm "off" (or even just off hours) and still expecting a response from me, sooo)

so.... HURGH. she apparently forgot why I was taking time off (even though I specifically discussed it with her before scheduling and requesting the time off specifically because I was trying to minimize the impact on my projects/other team members). but it still just feels like... idk she's (unintentionally) guilting me for EVER needing any fucking time off ever/not instantly and constantly being available the moment she needs something of me. (she's also started doing this thing to me more than once where she asks if I'm mad at her or do I hate her (??) or some shit because apparently she sometimes perceives my IM responses as too short, or that I'm not chatting with her as much as usual. and I've told her each time, if it seems like I'm short or not as responsive as usual, it means I'm BUSY and trying to make time to respond to her to the best of my abilities, but sometimes it has to be quick and I won't be able to chit chat bc work takes precedence... and then a week or two later she'll be asking if I don't like her anymore again!!) ((and tbc even tho I'm venting I DO like this woman, she's one of my closest work friends etc., etc. but god, the sudden non-reciprocal expectation of how much attention I owe her vs. she owes me is starting to grate!!))

[danzafila]

coworker: your eyes always look so pretty when you wear green!!!

me: jokes on you i'm not wearing green today i was actually just crying :)))

[danzafila]

i just worked 11hrs ugh

[danzafila]

so glad it could warm up just in time to sleet for my walk home

[danzafila]

So what’s a way to say “bitch out” without cursing?

(I need to ask my parents to please bitch out my work for overworking me when I’m recovering from surgery (b/c I’m a baby who needs my parents to fight my battles for me) but I’m not about to get smacked for cursing at them while asking.)