The way his back met the wall, the cage of those strong arms pinning him in place made the younger agent’s blood begin lazily travelling south. Jason was bigger, broader than him and while he could have escaped should he have wished to, he looked up at the blond with a small smirk and confidence in his eyes.
“I’m sure,” he replied firmly, accompanying the affirmation with a small nod. “Unless of course, the old man’s afraid that he can’t keep up.”
I was on a boat in the middle of the ocean in Belize. You couldn’t see land in either direction. The locals were throwing chum in the water. After a few minutes ten sharks had the boat surrounded. Then they looked at me and said the unthinkable, “jump in!”.
I paused and said, “fuck that! You jump in!”
They all laughed and then one of them, dove in head first over the sharks.
I gulped, took a deep breath and dove in after him.
My typical reaction to things outside of my comfort zone, is to say “fuck that”.
I can’t imagine all the things I would have missed out on if I didn’t push through my fear on a daily basis.
I definitely wouldn’t be writing this, staring at the blue water with Greek Islands as my backdrop.
This is what I believe FEAR really means:
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real
Think about this. How is it possible that two people can look at the same situation differently?
How can one person skydive, bungee jump, go approach a member of the opposite sex, take a risk and start a business, follow their dreams and the other person can’t.
The answer is perception.
Our circumstances really don’t matter. The only thing that matters is how we perceive the events that are happening.
Our brains have a survival instinct that makes us want to feel safe. It’s evolved tremendously from the days of telling us fire is hot, don’t touch!
Now our survival instinct wants to keep us trapped in jobs we hate. Relationships that aren’t right for us. It keeps us in our comfort zone. It keeps us “safe”.
Away from risk, from adventure, from truly living life.
My biggest fear was being myself around other people. For the first 25 years of my life I was extremely uncomfortable in my own skin and I didn’t like who I was.
My survival instinct told me to isolate. It told me I wasn’t good enough. It told me to not go after anything worth while because I would fail.
Being myself was a crippling fear I had.
I now love the person I am. I’m traveling the world by myself. Meeting all types of different people. I am writing genuine thoughts for other people to read. I am being who I really am.
My fear that I once had is gone. I now realize I only had that fear because I told myself over and over again that I had to be afraid.
FEAR is bull shit, it isn’t real.
When we think about going after that job we really want, starting a business, asking that girl out, jumping out of that plane, following your true passion, not caring what people think, getting out of your comfort zone, loving yourself, and in my case quitting your job, selling everything, and traveling the world and that fear arises, we can look at it and laugh.
Because we know there is no basis for that fear. If one person has done it before you, then you can also do it.
Do not let your head tell you otherwise.
Do not put limitations on yourself or this beautiful life we GET to live.
Do not let fear hold you back from what you truly want to do.
Because there is no better feeling than looking fear in the face and pushing it to the side!
“Twenty years from now you’ll be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do, than by the things you did.”
Do you live your life from a space of survival mode? Do you even need this survival lens? Have you wondered?Well, this time on The xMonks Drive, we have with us Malti Bhojwani, a coach, an author, and a facilitator to break the surviving lens and help us enter into a joyful life. According to her, we are all born with lenses and we are contained by those lenses through which we see the world. But we should not forget that we are also born with an internal innate desire to learn and evolve.
Do you live your life from a space of survival mode? Do you even need this survival lens? Have you wondered?
Well, this time on The xMonks Drive, we have with us Malti Bhojwani, a coach, an author, and a facilitator to break the surviving lens and help us enter into a joyful life. According to her, we are all born with lenses and we are contained by those lenses through which we see the world. But we should not forget that we are also born with an internal innate desire to learn and evolve.
The Survival Mode
“Through the advent of evolution, life has always been about survival but we are so blessed now to not have to fight that survival game and actually enjoy our lives and live our purpose.”
Gaurav: From where do you think the survival instinct of individuals comes from?
Malti: Personally, I started to look at life from the perspective of “What if I could be a huge success? What if I could be happy? What if I didn’t have to live paycheck to paycheck, month to month, just enough just in time?” I can’t speak for the world. But in my experience, I try to make sense of the things I’ve learned in my career, as a coach and facilitator. I have tried to make sense of it through my own life. I have lived in the survival consciousness for a long time. So even though I’ve been doing this work for over two decades, I know that there has been a shift that happened more recently, where I stopped living in the survival mindset that I used to.
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"If you don't want anyone else to suffer as you have, you'll keep fighting. Because if you don't, more people like those in your squad will fall prey to paper-pushers with more power than boots-on-the-ground soldiers like you or I. Like it or not, we're in this for the long haul."
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FEAR: “People buy into [fear] and feel fear because they don’t have the language to attach to what it is. I think people don’t understand that anxiety is fear. Jealousy is fear. Greed is fear. All of those are elements of a fear-based culture. Eating is fear. Drinking is fear. Drugs are fear. Rage is fear. We’re all afraid. We just have to get to the point where we understand it doesn’t mean that we can’t also be brave.” - Brené Brown "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat." - Theodore Roosevelt • • #whatisfear #fear #selfolution2018 #brave #theodoreroosevelt #brenebrown
