I have achieved computer
My computer is back home. All fixed and electric and things. We moved at the end of May into our new home! Yay, first time homeowner. The computer didn’t make the move well. It was still under warranty thank goodness.
Sometimes things in your life that tear you up and hurt you are actually very good for you. I think that is what this year is going to be about. After four years together our third just walked out the door in January, told us we were toxic, told others we were abusive, and wouldn’t talk about what happened. Changed her phone number, changed her email. Left her cat and her car and about 2/3 of her shit. She showed back up again at the end of February and wanted her stuff...not the cat, not the car, just her shit...after not even emailing us for 2 months...let’s just say it was gone. I waited 45 days and then I gave it away, sold it or trashed it. Still don’t know what to do about the car, but the cat is fucking ours now. We are driving and paying the loan on the car but she won’t sign off the title (our names are on it too, but she drove it mainly). Seriously considering letting the bank take it back. As much as all of that hurt. As much as it still does. As strong of a betrayal as it was, is and will be. We are better off. Financially, physically, and emotionally.
For the first time in years we are caught up with the bills. We bought a freaking house (his VA status helped with that a lot). We are beginning to be able to save money (getting rid of the car will help that more). We are more affectionate with each other again. I can cook and bake and move again. I am beginning to see that our relationship before was indeed toxic, just maybe not in the way she meant. I hope, sincerely hope, that she is doing better. That she is getting help. That she has made positive leaps and bounds just as we have. I also sincerely hope never to see her again. Tucson is a small city, it probably won’t happen, but I hope it does. There were ways to do what she did and not cause the pain and confusion she did on all sides. She chose where she is, I just hope she is as happy there as we are here.