Openness
I have a patient who shared this conversation with me. It was heartbreaking. After six years with the same partner, he found out the partner had been very unfaithful.
Us physicians, especially ENFP ones, have to deal with this all the time. Let us face the fact that our culture on one hand is very sexualized and on the other dislikes confrontation.
As it turns out, the cheater acquired some sexually transmitted diseases. He had met several sexual partners on an app named Grindr, and as these homosexuals go, he was quite prolific in his sexual conquests. After seeing the dullness of his partner, I wasn’t too surprised.
Once the test results came back, my patient ask if he should go back with this partner. I could only pray for him. But I felt he was still in love. I was negative in my response, as were all the tests.
In my ID practice I have to deal with these people, or as they call themselves, “gay men.” I have to counsel them, but there is no medicine for the broken heart.
The two men, let’s call them MO and ARC, are not together anymore. But they’re both lost in their world of broken affection.