Why polyamory for me
This is my best advice. For me, polyamory is not about having multiple relationships of a romantic or sexual nature, it's about reclaiming my autonomy - I find the concept of default codependency yuck. I like the option of valuing multiple deep connections where they are and letting them end up where they end up. In a mono relationship, your partner is often expected to fill many shoes for you. In a polyamorous relationship, I am free to let relationships exist in the context of *themselves,* rather than the context of my mono romantic relationship.
For me, it was essential to own my time, my emotions, and boundaries before I could be successful doing a polyamory workout. I also like to think of it as a muscle workout or set of skills rather than a light switch. I knew a long time ago that I was not *right* in a mono relationship but I didn't have the skillset.
https://medium.com/@PolyamorySchool/the-most-skipped-step-when-opening-a-relationship-f1f67abbbd49