Revive the ‘spark’ with your ex?
I know what it’s like to miss an ex. I was in love with my ex for 7 years. Yep – Seven!!!
For years, I felt like I was going crazy from missing him. I kept replaying events from the past that we had shared. I would feel the anger and hurt each time I recalled certain conversations. I felt desperation, sadness, and bitterness.
I just couldn’t forget him (and that wasn’t from lack of trying). I dated and tried various relationships but my thoughts would always come back to my ex. I knew he was the one but knew that he wanted nothing to do with me so I wasn’t sure how to get over him.
It wasn’t until my search for an answer found the Law of Attraction. It really opened my eyes. I discovered that I was doing EVERYTHING wrong. I realized that the more I missed him and felt anger towards him, the further away I pushed him from me.
As I was tired of feeling so bad all the time and I really wanted him back in my life, I decided to put aside all of my reservations and give this a real go. I am so glad that I did.
Within 2 weeks (Yes – 2 weeks!!) of implementing the changes, my ex actually sent me a message via Facebook, asking how I was!!??!! To say that I was shocked was an understatement. It was funny because I was feeling so good about life and myself that it kind of felt weird when he messaged me.
Anyway, he asked to catch up for a drink and when we saw each other, it was like no time had passed. The conversation eventually turned to us and our past. He apologized and admitted that he had missed me and wanted to give our relationship another try. I just couldn’t believe it.
It had been SEVEN years since I last saw him and within 2 weeks, he was back, telling me all the things I had longed to hear. We have been together now for 1.5 years and our relationship is better than ever.
I have detailed the steps I used and am confident that if you follow these steps precisely, you will also get your ex back.
Firstly, it is very important that you forgive your Ex, as well as yourself. Regardless of the reason for the breakup, take ownership of the part you played in your relationship ending. It takes two people to have a relationship and it is rare that it is all one person’s fault. Even if your partner cheated on you, it’s important to look at the part you may have played.
If you don’t forgive your ex (and yourself), you will continue to push them away as your energy will resonate heartbreak, hurt and anger. Like attracts like so if you feel those emotions then you will continue to push your ex away because you will be living in an existence of hurt and anger.
You need to be very clear about what you want. If you want your ex back because you want a permanent, loving relationship with them – then state that. If you want to marry them because you love them, then make that intention clear also. However, think carefully about ‘why’ you want your ex back.
If you want them back out of pride or you want to get them back so you can break their heart (you want revenge) – this process will not work. Your heart must be ‘pure’ and your intentions must be good. I found writing down my intentions was much more powerful than simply stating them. Write it down and read it out loud made the words more powerful.
Another great method is to turn your intentions into a ‘mantra’. Repeat this to yourself each morning and night (on rising and before you go to sleep).
Next, visualize yourself being back with your ex. See yourself on a date with him/her having a great time, imagine yourself talking to them and feeling good. Plan your wedding (if that is what you want). Visualize anything that you can think of in order to get yourself in a good feeling place about your relationship.
You need to place all of your focus on what you want rather than on the things that you do not want in your life. I meditated each day using a meditation CD (mp3) to really focus my visualizations and I really believe that made a HUGE difference to my whole process. The process made everything seem so much clearer and REAL. I think this was a real game changer for me.
Carry a picture of your ex with you and at various times of the day, look at their picture and send them love. Another method I used, as I kept a small stone next to my bed and each night before I went to sleep, I would hold the rock and send him love. I would visualize myself giving him a big hug. I felt the warmth of his jumper, I smelt the scent of his skin.
I imagined the softness of his hair (as I ran my figures through it). It felt so real and it made me feel so good. My ex (who is now my boyfriend) later told me that, all of a sudden, he would find himself thinking of me each night – and he couldn’t stop himself – and he didn’t know why. That gave me confirmation that this theory works!!
5. Raise your vibration – get happy
In order to bring your ex back to you quickly, it is VERY important that you feel happy. Not just think it. I know this may be hard, especially if you missing your ex, but you need to remove the feeling of ‘missing’ your ex. You more you ‘miss’ them, the more you will continue to miss them.
Feel excited that you are now with them. Feel overjoyed that your relationship is now better than what it ever was. I know this can be a challenge but I will share the technique that I used (which really worked):
I imagined myself sitting at a table inside a restaurant owned by the universe.
The waiter would come over and take my order.
I would ‘place my order’ with the universe (which was me requesting for my ex to come back and for us to have an amazing, loving relationship where we were both so happy).
The waiter would walk away to the kitchen to submit my order and I would sit back, feeling very relaxed, that I had placed my order.
I don’t need to keep asking the waiter whether he had placed my order (because it’s obvious he has placed it).
I found using this visualization process helped with any doubt or fear that I had. I didn’t need to keep asking for what I wanted because I had ‘placed my order’ with the universe. Anytime I felt the doubt creep in, I would visualize this process.
Another way I found to make myself happy was that I did things that brought me joy. Going to the gym and working up a sweat made me feel good. Focusing on my hobbies and hanging out with my positive friends. Keeping myself busy with these things made me feel great. The better you feel, the faster your ex will return back to you.
Letting go of worry and doubt is the QUICKEST way to get what you want. ‘Detachment’ is the keyword. A perfect example is something that happens all the time. Do you ever wonder why people you are attracted to, normally don’t seem that keen on you but the people you really don’t care about, are normally the ones falling over themselves to get your attention? The reason? Detachment.
The less you care, the faster it will come to you. That doesn’t mean you need to stop wanting your ex. It means you are no longer stressing about getting together with your ex. Your feeling relaxed and confident that it’s happening so there is no need to worry about it happening.
These are the steps that I followed, and as I have already explained, this worked for me.
I just wish I had known this earlier as I wasted so much time pushing my ex away (without realizing it).
Also, once your ex does return, it is important to keep sending love and positivity while you are in the relationship so that your relationship will remain loving, peaceful and happy.
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