Oh love, I'm so sorry. It doesn't seem the right way round that you should have to tell your dad, but that's just the way it worked out. There is no comforting thing to say because right now you need to be sad. But I'm thinking of you. x
Thank you. And now that it's happened and I've thought about it, I think this is the way I would have preferred it, I mean I got to tell my dad that his dad had rang and pull him into a hug to let him know, and so rather than just hearing painful words, he got some human comfort. I also asked if he felt he was ok to drive down and offered to drive him if he wasn't. So I did what I could and now it's just waiting to hear what's happening. My Grandpa has apparently gone into super organised mode, which I suppose is a good place to be, it serves as a distraction, until my dad and uncle get down to him. x