Signs of Hyper-Independence
Although hyper-independence can manifest differently depending on the individual, signs of hyper-independence can include:
Over-achieving: People who are hyper-independent may over-commit to work or personal projects to the point that they are unable to manage the load themselves.
Refusing to delegate or ask for help: Hyper-independent people will struggle to ask others to help them when they are overwhelmed, or they will be unable to pass tasks on to someone else.
Guardedness in relationships: Close relationships are interdependent by nature, and a person who is hyper-independent will struggle to let their walls down and let the other person in.
Secretiveness: Those who are hyper-independent will often keep to themselves or be reluctant to share personal information that could be used against them.
Mistrust of other people: Sometimes, a person is hyper-independent because they worry that others will let them down or betray their trust.
Few close or long-term relationships: Because they are unable to open up to other people, it can be difficult for hyper-independent people to form and maintain friendships and romantic relationships.
Stress or burnout: Because hyper-independent people struggle with delegating or asking for help when they need it, they often take on more than they can handle, leading to heightened stress or even burnout symptoms.
Dislike of “neediness”: In addition to not wanting to rely on others, people who are hyper-independent may resent or resist others relying on them.
