#~labels

[rareandradiant-maiden]

i’m feeling v fucked off with gender right now

[rareandradiant-maiden]

“As a society and a government we should be looking at ways of trying to strip back talking about gender, and only do that when it’s absolutely necessary.” -- Maria Miller, Chair of the Women and Equalities Select Committee

NICE.

[rareandradiant-maiden]

I'm alloromantic and the window varies wildly - sometimes I have met people and found them very very intriguing in a way that I recognise as likely to shortly develop into a crush. But more commonly I have known people for months or years before the crush feelings rise in me. My first ever crush, developed in primary school, was on a boy I had known for years and one day I woke up and had feelings for him. Subsequently I've been able to see it coming more in advance. Also, my crushes are rare.

thank you, that is useful!

[rareandradiant-maiden]

Romantic attraction for me isn't something that happens on a regular schedule, but I don't really understand how demiromanticism differs from how most people experience romantic attraction. I mean I'll have little crushes on people I don't know or don't know well but I feel like deeper romantic attraction demands that you know and have a relationship with the person.

but you just said it right there? like, crushes are romantic attraction, which demiromantic people don’t experience for people they don’t know?

[rareandradiant-maiden]

It would depend on what you would consider a romantic inclination. Life isn't like the movies it takes time and effort to get to that level.

i’m aware, but “time and effort” is a phrase that people can intend to mean different things when spoken by different people, and that’s the sort of misunderstanding i’d like to clear up for myself.(also, effort?? when i have experienced romantic attraction it has been without effort; pretty much involuntary)

wrt definition, i cannot define romantic attraction sufficiently well for myself. if you (ie, any person w/ the kindness in their heart to answer this) don’t have it clear with yourself what is romantic attraction and what isn’t, i have so been there, and you’re awesome, but i don’t think i can help you out

[rareandradiant-maiden]

hey followers

i’m wondering if the label demiromanticism is ~right for me~ and also what it indicates in relation to the norm/most common way of experiencing romantic attraction. it would be awesome if some of you guys who are comfortable with giving out this information would drop me a message giving your place on the alloromantic-aromantic spectrum (alloro, aro, demiro, wtfro, etc) and how long your typical interval is between first meeting a crush and being romantically attracted to them. contextual information for that is also appreciated, as is any sort of other data or articles you’ve come across about demiromanticism. thanks!

(i will tag the asks with ~labels so if you want to block that tag feel free)

[rareandradiant-maiden]

hello, people who experience sexual desire (not sexual attraction)

i have a question

would you mind explaining, in as non-sexual terms as possible (and without food metaphors) the sensations/thoughts/feelings of sexual desire?