Exploring kink as a switch ❤

Because everyone needs a little kinky in their life. NSFW. NO MINORS! I'm happy to answer questions for both doms and subs, and give advice best I can! F/30

[cuff247]

[roughribo]

Having your sub rearrange the bookshelf in a particular order. Making them change their shoes over and over through the day. Telling them to open their mouth and then going about your day, doing your normal routine, reminding them you didn't say they could close it yet when they try to. Nothing lewd about it, it's just because.

And I'm a big fan of those 'just because' orders for your sub. It's not about sex or getting off, it's about your sub loves being told what to do. And the more arbitrary the order is the more you know it is being done only for your enjoyment as the dom. There's no purpose to it other than you said so. And isn't that sweet and romantic that they would do that for you? Give them something to do and let them be romantic.

[gentle-sadist2]

Run if you want. Hide if you need to. But when I catch you behind that tree, I’m going to tie you there and use you the way you wanted when you whispered the rules into my ear. Cry all you want, darling. Your body will still confess.

[gentle-sadist2]

Give me the taste of pleasure and pain. Not the safe version. Not the pretty little fantasy people whisper about when they still want to feel innocent after. I want the kind that makes your body pause because it knows this will leave something behind. Sweet enough to come closer. Sharp enough to regret wanting it. That is the dangerous part. When it stops feeling like a choice and starts feeling like something in you finally being honest.

[blodlessinsomniac]

♥️✨💜 Bruises ♥️✨💜

[tamedbrat]

Neeeeed

[roughribo]

Putting my sub's cage next to the aquarium so they can watch the pretty animals when I lock them in their cage. Meanwhile I get to sit back and watch all of my pets in their enclosures.

And that's the best part. I get to watch my sub realize I gaze upon them in their cage the same way I look at the animals in that tank. I get to watch the realization sink in of just how much they really are my actual property. It's more than words, we're not just playing, I'm sitting there admiring what I own and provide for and... they're so happy and safe. This really is their place. They really belong to someone else and need to continue to belong to me. Like property. Owned is not just a role in a relationship to us, it's a state of mind and way of being.

[companioncalligraphy]

Maybe all she needs is to be hunted in the woods like a good prey then taken back to the cabin and treated like a perfect princess.

[cruelwhim]

Part of why I like making you drink out of a bowl on the floor is that it’s incredibly humiliating. The other reason is that I like pushing your head down into the bowl with my foot to watch you make a mess and struggle to breathe till I let you up again. Poor helpless puppy.

[roughribo]

My favorite form of submissive conditioning is basic longterm positive reinforcement in the form of praise kink. It's my favorite because I love hyping them up and I love reaping the rewards of that praise. And all it essentially boils down to is consistently praising them for the behaviors you want to see in the future.

And I fucking love my partner giving me a reason to be proud of them and hyping them up with praise. In my case I really value obedience, control, and sexual service. So any time they obey an order, defer a decision to me, or please me without hesitation/resistance I dial it up and layer on the praise until I make them blush and make them feel how proud of them I am. And I'm consistent with when I hand out that praise and I'm effusive and genuine with my praise. If I want my sub to gush for me all the time, then I'm going to gush over them all the time.

I sprinkle in some negative reinforcement for variety sometimes, usually only as necessary and only very briefly. It's not as effective as positive reinforcement typically, but it can be a useful tone setter for expectations. A swift hard slap on the ass, a prompt stern look, and a verbal "know your place" will do wonders for reinforcing expectations and keeping them on track whenever my sub falters or hesitates doing the behaviors I want to see out of them. It will keep them on their toes to behave, and to behave properly to my standards, not theirs.

This will not get you the behaviors you want to see out of them overnight. It will take years and you will have to stay consistent over all that time. But it's hard to deny the results when you say "kneel" and they don't even have time to process what you said before they're on their knees waiting for your praiseful adoration like Pavlov's dog. As if it's automatic for them. The behaviors you conditioned in them over time become their instincts. It's a beautiful sight.

And for those subs who were forced to become independent because of where their life took them or their upbringing, it can be absolutely liberating to be returned to their factory default settings of submission and obedience by someone who cares for them. And do I even need to explain why as a dom having a conditioned sub is awesome? You and your raw power and your hard work and dedication did that to them, you should absolutely be proud of that and take advantage of that conditioning for your own pleasure too.

[roughribo]

Fucking your sub hard and finally cumming the hardest you've ever cum when they accuse you of being mean. Yes I am, now say it again. Who's so mean to you my little prey? Fuck are you going to call me a bully or cruel too? I don't know how much cum will fit in you but you're going to find out saying stuff like that.

[jupiterfoxx]

you gotta microchip me with a GPS so you can always find me, and anyone who scans my chip will know I belong to you 🐾🎀

[roughribo]

It's time to shut up and lock in (in a cage, naked and admired and teased by the love of your life).

[prettyypearl]

Hurt me, but not because I was bad or disobeyed. You know I’m always good, always obedient, always desperate to please. Hurt me because you like to, because it gets you off, because I look so pretty like this. Reassure me that this is not punishment, that I’m being so good for you. You’re hurting me because it gives you pleasure, and I’m taking it so well because I would never question you.

[roughribo]

"Do the carpets match the drapes?" <- boring, unsexy, irrelevant ❌

"Are your screams as pretty as your eyes?" <- romantic, terrifying, feral ✅

[urvoodouvixen]

Having a sub isn’t about making them do everything that you want them to.

You’re a protector

A lover

A warm place to land.

My submissive wakes up to voice messages, music, and doting every morning. He gets gifts and praise and occasionally punishment. He gets affection that is so well deserved.

He is reminded how special he is. His safety and happiness is my goal. Not breaking him for my own ego.

Don’t forget who gave you the power you have. Appreciate that shit. Let it make you move differently as a Dom/me.

Their softness is sacred.

[roughribo]

I want to hear the most desperate begging she's ever done and still tell her calmly: "No."

And do it again

and again

and again

and again

and again....

[tyjrose]

[tamedbrat]

Soft dominance deserves more applause and credit 💋