I saw that like emoji ask post so
🪴 (potted plant) - If you have a headspace, what is that like? If you don't have a headspace, where do system members normally hang out?
🌻 (sunflower) - If you can communicate internally, what is that like? If you can't communicate internally, do you have other methods for communicating with each other?
🍁 (maple leaf) - If you can switch, what is that like? If you can't switch, is it something that you're interested in?
🍂 (fallen leaves) - Do you experience yourselves as individuals, as parts of a whole, or some secret other thing?
🌴 (palm tree) - Is there anything that you do to spend time together?
🌲 (evergreen tree) - What kinds of relationships (familial, romantic, platonic, etc) exist between members of the system?
🌾 (sheaf of rice) - What does your average day look like? How does plurality intersect with it?
🍎 (apple) - What advice would you give to a singlet looking to be an ally?
Sorry if this is a lot of questions lol T_T
Thanks for asking these questions !!
🪴 (potted plant) - If you have a headspace, what is that like? If you don't have a headspace, where do system members normally hang out?
We have a headspace (we call it the innerworld) ! It's quite big, actually. Far far far west, we've got the old innerword that got destroyed a few years ago by a huge fire (I think the fire's extringuished now but it stayed on for solid two/three years).
Then, more east, we have the Green Forest that separates the old and new inner. Our main internal self helper lives there. It's a very cosy, warm and welcoming place.
Then (going east), we've got the main place. There's a castle with a lot of unnoccupied space so that we can arrange a room for anyone who wants one. The castle is facing south, and there is a big park all around it where it's usually sunny and some alters can hang out here. Deep south of the park, there's a river with a sluice that represent the passage from the innerworld to the front room.
On the east of the castle and the park, there's a Dark Forest. That's a less accessible part of the innerworld where most alters don't go (cause it's scary af) and the alters living there usually don't front a lot. The twins are usually in a random area of the forest, there's a manor that is the safest place in the forest, and a circus where three alters live and only one alter explored (apart from the three residents).
There was a whole world (huge place) even more east, but we don't know if it has disappeared or if we just can't access it anymore.
🌻 (sunflower) - If you can communicate internally, what is that like? If you can't communicate internally, do you have other methods for communicating with each other?
Some of us can communicate internally, some don't (it depends on our relationships). When our head is clear and we are close to each other, we can communicate with clear thoughts (full sentences in discussion). Usually if we're alone, the fronter speaks out loud and the others answer in our head.
If we can't communicate with full sentence, we can communicate with feelings, pictures or memories but it's kinda fucked up and doesn't work.
And, I don't really do it cause I'm the host but I know some alters can communicate in the innerworld (again, it depends with who they hang out), so if I need to get a message to someone I can't really communicate with, I'll tell someone who'll tell them. It's pretty scary cause I don't have control over the message but it works surprisingly well.
🍁 (maple leaf) - If you can switch, what is that like? If you can't switch, is it something that you're interested in?
We can switch ! Usually, it feels like I'm being heavily influenced by someone else, almost as if I was playing a role except I'm not doing it on purpose. On these moments, I don't even realise I've switched.
But the front can be much more intense. In these moments, I still remember everything and we don't have a blip or a cut in memories, everything stays quite homogeneous, but we have a dissociation phase, when I'm not really there anymore (or far in the back of our head). Then, the alter taking the front gets closer to the front board, and when they get the controllers, we don't have access to the front room and the new alter's just trying to ground to feel real in the body (can take time).
We usually have physical symptoms when that happens, like shivering, goosebumps, and yawning.
🍂 (fallen leaves) - Do you experience yourselves as individuals, as parts of a whole, or some secret other thing?
Secret other thing !
More seriously, we feel like individuals in a way that we're all unique and have our own will and feelings and memories... But at the same time, we share one mind and one body. We're all part of one team. We have our own feelings but we can feel what other alters feel. We have our own memories but we can all access central memory and nothing is hidden from anyone if you know what you want to remember. So, yeah, we're individuals AND part of a whole.
🌴 (palm tree) - Is there anything that you do to spend time together?
Not really... I know some groups spend time together in the innerworld but I don't think anyone really organise anything to spend time with each other. We should though ! I'm gonna think about it.
🌲 (evergreen tree) - What kinds of relationships (familial, romantic, platonic, etc) exist between members of the system?
We mostly consider ourself a team. We're more than friends but still in a platonic way. BUT there are some exceptions (always).
We've got twins. They're like... 3000 years old elves, but we haven't seen them in a while (which isn't unusual, since they live in the Dark Forest and don't front often).
The two caretakers of the littles act like something between babysitters, big siblings and parents (we're closer to the babysitter but since they're always there, it starts to feel like they're a family).
And the main protector and one of the first hosts had a weird "romantic feelings but we're not a couple" type of relationship, so now that I have fused with this host, we don't really feel like that anymore, but we're still super close.
And of course some are really close friends (Arthur and Lucille being the two besties we didn't know we needed).
🌾 (sheaf of rice) - What does your average day look like? How does plurality intersect with it?
Our life is quite unusual this year so I can't really tell you what my average day looks like, but I can spend a day without even remembering we're plural. Some days, there's a trigger and then I very much know we're plural. And some days I just want to improve communication (which has been the case for the past month), so we journal, try to communicate internally and externally, add stuff to the Obsidian map, or just let someone who wants to do something front (they're usually very happy that I let them take more independance in front, so that's cool).
🍎 (apple) - What advice would you give to a singlet looking to be an ally?
Ask if it's okay to ask question if you've got a plural friend/moot. If it is, go on ! Some systems like to keep their plurality quite private, others want to talk about it (both are 100% okay).
If you feel like it would feel weird to imagine someone having multiple people in their body, try to consume plural content, especially videos. Try to find plural Youtubers or TikTokers, so that you see it often and it becomes normal for you.
Educate yourself. Try to know the basis of plurality, and the most used words in the plural community, so that you can talk with a system without asking "what does it mean ?" every 5 seconds.
Do your best, no one is going to be mad if you're not being "the perfect ally". It's a complex topic, even for plural folks, don't overstress yourself with it.
Don't ever fakeclaim someone, don't get into syscourse, don't get fooled by the anti endo community, ... That's not so much advice, just a reminder that not everything that happens in the plural community is good (no shit Sherlock).
That's it !! Thank you sm for asking these, hope my answers weren't too long (ik they were, sorry sorry).
Take care <33
