[terfetuloa]

woman (ˈwo͝omən)

noun:  an adult female human being.

Hello, Radblr,

I’m another (very tired) lesbian who had to turn to a side blog in order to be able to fully speak about womanhood and what it means to be female in this penis-loving world. Once I was a true believer of liberal feminism, raising flags of diversity and praising those courageous enough to seek for their “true identity”. I was one of those brainwashed young girls shouting how evil terfs were and avoiding reading anything written by terfs as if I was committing heresy. But I’m lesbian and when you’re a woman who loves women you’ll eventually notice that the current LGBTQI+ community just isn’t a safe place for you and your woman-centered love life.

While posting about lesbian struggles and the absolute hysteria that’s the current LGBT movement on my main blog (the one I had for nearly 10 years) I came across such violent reactions from people I knew (online) for a long time that it left me not only dumbstruck but afraid of sharing my beliefs. After a while it kinda enrages you. As I was searching for women sharing the same concerns as I had, I came across radical feminists, the evil terfs. And I agreed with them. Maybe this is why “kweer” people ask you not to interact with terf women, right?

So as a way to avoid getting doxxed and to be able to fully express what I feel, I decided to start a new blog, meet women that won’t hunt me down like a criminal, and just share & learn. I’m 24, lesbian, mixed-raced, and fully out of the closet since 2009. I’m anti-prostitution (not anti-prostitutes), anti-porn (A.K.A. broadcasted rape) and anti-BDSM (sex is not about violence). I don’t believe trans women are women, as they’re biological males, there’s no “lady brain” and ‘woman’ is not a feeling. Speaking of biology, I’m not a science denier or a relativist, biology is real and not something randomly assigned. I believe gender is oppression.

 I do believe trans people deserve civil rights as I believe in Human Rights, but 1) not at the cost of female rights and 2) sex is not a human right (hello, cotton-ceiling). I don’t believe all transwomen are predators, I truly believe there are transwomen minding their own business and trying to live their lives in peace and I’m willing to use their preferred names and pronouns in a well-mannered discussion, but I don’t trust the political aspect of the trans community and their political agenda, as I was constantly exposed to their violent replies to women with different world views, the systemic denial of science, the crusade to destroy sex-based rights, the erasure of language, their blatant homophobia and lesbophobia (modern conversion therapy) and the obnoxious online grooming of gnc gays and lesbians. 

I respect people’s pronouns as a way to show courtesy to people that respect me and civilly discuss with me, even tho I believe that non-binary women are females with I’m Not Like The Other Girls Complex taking male stereotypes as the default form even for gender-neutral language and aesthetics, while throwing other women under the bus because “they identify with their assigned gender” (news flash: gender is oppression, no women identifies with their oppression). I believe this non-binary trend is a way for women to escape internalized misogyny and the pain of being female, also, lots of teenagers mistaking personality traits for gender. Wearing pants and a short haircut doesn’t erase your material reality as a female.

I wouldn’t say I’m a radical feminist (yet), but a lot of Radfem's ideas are in accordance to my world views. I’m well aware that the term “terf” is a slur but I couldn’t avoid the pun (tervetuloa = welcome, in Finnish). Anyways, these are some of my beliefs. I know I have a lot to learn and to be able to find women with similar mindsets would be awesome :)

[now-exiting-fuckability-deactiv]

I see a lot of zoomers on here who seem to think that those of us over 25 are mean and invalidating of their gender identities because we just don't get it. When you say "non-binary" when you say you just didn't feel like a girl, I fucking get it. I really, really do. When you talk about gender dysphoria and hating your body, I've been there. If you tell me you're "not like other girls, so you're not", it's not some new and novel concept my bigoted mind can't get around.

I bound my breasts as a teen. I went by a boys name. I insulted other girls because I saw the way they were treated and the way they made performance pieces of themselves and I was terrified of being in their position.

But it wasn't because I was unique and special and begendered. I was never less of a girl, a female, a woman, because I was a tomboy. Because I hated when boys objectified me. Because I couldn't relate to pink or pretty things and I lashed out at other girls in my anger and fear as though they were the ones responsible for the overwhelming pressure to be quieter, softer, and prettier.

When you claim you're non-binary because you don't fit in to rigid (sexist) gender standards, you're just reinforcing the legitimacy of the strict gender system that put you in that position in the first place. Nobody fits into the gender binary. Nobody. So stop acting like it's something meaningful or revolutionary that you don't fit in the box. NOBODY DOES. Don't just climb out of it, dismantle the box!

[terfetuloa]

It's staggering how the gender cult is obsessed with the idea of social constructs to the point of conflating basic biology - materiality - with the idea of a concept socially constructed. I often see trans-identified males blurting out things like "I had to remove my Adam's apple because according to society's rules a woman's voice shouldn't sound too rough" or "I had to remove my beard with the help of laser treatment because society says a woman's face shouldn't be covered by a thick beard" or - THE CLASSIC ONE - "I had to undergo SRS because society expects females to not have penises".

How the fuck are those societal rules and not biological facts because human beings have sexual dimorphism? Those are not socially constructed concepts, those are objective aspects of your material reality as a male. How come now we're addressing secondary and even primary (!) sex characteristics as subjective ideas that 1) were put in place by the evil CIStem and 2) need to change in order to establish social progress?

My ability to recognize who's male and who's female is an evolutionary adaptation and no amount of woke brainwashing can convince me it's bigotry.

[terfetuloa]

Western liberal feminists, stop saying that burkas and niqabs and hijabs are empowering and that Islam is always good to women because there's this Instagram celebrity who's a westerner and islamic and her nails match the color of her hijab uwu

[terfetuloa]

It’s so weird the way western 1st world libfems insist on saying there’s no universal female experience. Like, of course, women experience patriarchy in different ways in different cultures, but living under patriarchy is a universal experience. 

And then they go like “lemme use these 3rd world indigenous people that I know nothing about as a token to say there are matriarchal societies, therefore patriarchy isn’t universal”.

First of all, matrilineality and matrilocality aren’t the same as a matriarchal society. There isn’t evidence of it. Don’t conflate these terms, don’t be silly.

Second of all, it’s stupid and intellectually wrong to pick villages comprised of a few dozen people or even less, in which women have an important status that are only in practice because it’s validated by men to use it as strong evidence to affirm that not all of half the population of this planet is dominated by the other half. 

As I said, patriarchy works differently from society to society, but patriarchy isn’t a white creation, it existed way before european colonization and to imply some women are free of it, when they’re actually more coopted into capitalistic structures that allow them to consume goods and take part in the job market, is to ignore the material reality of what’s to be female in a world designed and ruled by males.

[maymuffinbatter]

hey jsyk you're marked red (transphobe) in shinigami eyes

The extension created by Wesley "Laurelai" Bailey, who has been accused of raping multiple young women, including a 14-year-old girl? Sorry he doesn't approve of my feminism.

[mithliya]

i don’t think id even take much issue with the word “queer” if it wasn’t shoved in my, & every lgb person’s, throat. it’s used as an umbrella term, a term to refer to our history, used to refer to every gay person, used to refer to same sex attraction, and is frequently used to replace “gay” or “lesbian”. it’s in the name of an entire theory! there isn’t any other slur ive seen thats managed to overtake all other labels of a community & even made it so members outside that community can casually & uncritically call us that slur.

[terfetuloa]

a trans men arguing that i must call myself “bi” because i like pussy, and both woman and “men” have pussy. why can’t you all live your life without forcing your posmod worldview into us, gays and lesbians? i didn’t endure all kinds of mental abuse to come out as a LESBIAN to witness these people feeling entitled to try to force me to redefine my sexuality because “it invalidates my gender identity uwu” and call me a bigot if i refuse to do so. your LESBOPHOBIA is showing. 

[darthvatrix]

It’s all White narcissitic and Misogynistic bullshit, aided and abetted by the Queer Handmaidens and Trans men/Transmasc NB Shieldmaidens.

Sexual theories by the MOST sexually repressed of the alphabet soup of letters.

[terfetuloa]

Trans people: no one is forcing you to date trans people, but if you refuse a trans person you have a genital fetish.

Trans people: no one is trying to redefine your sexuality, but if you say you only engage sexualy with this specific set of genitals you need to stop calling yourself a lesbian, because men have pussy too.

You’re all blind if you can’t see how violent this kind of discourse is. 

[darthvatrix]

It’s Gender Ideology Conversion Therapy of LGs. We are HOMOSEXUALS. Their Gender Identities and fabricated bodies, will never override our INNATE SAME SEX SEXUAL ORIENTATIONS.

[ophelias-revenge]

The conflating of physical sex with invisible unprovable gender id has been one of the worst set backs to feminism and women’s rights in younger women’s lifetimes. It’s been less than one generation since things like same sex marriage legalizing and taking sodomy laws off the books and now a whole new generation is returning to “gays are diseased sex obsessed pervs” but pretending it’s progressive because it’s coming from heterosexual trans ppl who pretend to be gay/purposely conflate sexuality with gender presentation & stereotypes

[terfetuloa]

a whole new generation is returning to “gays are diseased sex obsessed pervs” but pretending it’s progressive because it’s coming from heterosexual trans ppl who pretend to be gay/purposely conflate sexuality with gender presentation & stereotypes

I didn’t notice these replies earlier, but @ophelias-revenge is so so right.

[alavenderdyke]

saved this a while ago when I was looking through various lesbian subs 💀

[honeypotting]

"It just sounded like something that was putting emphasis on women" like that's somehow a bad thing?

[terfetuloa]

I miss the early 2000s and the Emo Era when people would listen to MCR and all that sad shit and have tacky greasy bangs and act all sad and done and WOULDN’T THINK THAT BECAUSE OF THEIR MUSIC TASTE OR HAIR THEY WOULD BE TRANS AND WOULDN’T COME UP WITH FAKE SEXUALITIES AND XENOGENDERS AND BE OBSESSED WITH PRONOUNS WHILE DESPERATE LOOKING FOR MADE-UP OPPRESSIONS TO FEEL SPECIAL.

Oh, the early 2000s...

[carnivorousincarnate]

she’s so misguided omfg

but can we talk about why tf tras are so gleeful to defend rapists

edit: she made fun of my facial deformity lol

[broitsamess]

no one is saying slurs lmao, not using your preferred pronouns isn't the same as using racial slurs. please get over yourselves.

[seeuspacelesbian-deactivated202]

Her: DONT MISGENDER EVER BC THAT SHOWS YOU ONLY TREAT TGE TRANS YOU LIKE WITH RESPECT

Also her: I will make fun of the facial deformities if tranzphoobs because they don’t deserve to have their feelings respected

So... you agree. You agree you don’t think I should respect people I think are shitty. :))

[terfetuloa]

Pronouns?! Using the WRONG pronouns?! HaTe cRImE

Being ableist? Fiiiiiine.

Funny how a potential trans RAPIST have more rights to have their ~feelings~ respected, but a evil terf “deseves” to be mocked based on her health condition. As if... being a ... gender critical woman is... worse... than being a... RAPIST.

Also, stop comparing your fake oppression (uwu pronouns) with RACISM. 

Edit:

Another woman too special to “feel” like a woman and delusioned enough to think her quirky hair makes her a man or whatever there is in between. How surprising...

[i-am-not-robot]

I don’t know who needs this today but:

🗣 Girl Dick is not real. If you have a penis you are a male and no amount of rape threats will change that- rape threats prove your malehood

[hypnictwitch]

Sometimes it boggles my mind that women can spend decades of campaigning and get hardly anywhere, still have their rights up for debate as a political ploy or chipped away over time, and can have statistics and research to back up every claim and be laughed at, but some males go “actually, we’re women because we say so” and they’re let into female spaces like ????

[hypnictwitch]

“Power is being able to say complete and utter nonsense and have it be believed; powerlessness is where no matter how much cogent evidence and proof one has, to not be believed.” – Catherine Mackinnon

[rad-chocho]

Saying "No means No" won't change anything until men stop erotising rape: a woman saying no is just a turn-on for them.

We can't end rape culture while defending sex acts that simulate -or simply are- rape. And yes, I'm talking about BDSM.

[terfetuloa]

It’s so funny when MRAs and TRAs start whining “Op iS a TeRf, I’lL StEeL ThIs PosT” as if this is some sort of gotcha moment... Babe, you agree with us, and acting all disgusted & reposting our stuff doesn’t change the fact that you agree with us. Kinda weird that such impeccable woke soul have opinions in common with evil terves, right?

[respectthefemalebody]

You Are Like Other Girls

That hyper feminine girl who loves makeup? She hates her natural face, she feels ignored without wearing it, she is looking for a way to get positive attention from people because humans are social animals and we require it to survive.

That super sugary sweet girl who lets herself get pushed around? She was policed in to that behavior. She is terrified of how people will react if she speaks her mind. She has seen the way girls with strong opinions that differ from the male consensus are called bitches. She doesn’t want to be a bitch.

That girl who says she loves cooking and cleaning? It’s the only way she’s ever achieved a sense of accomplishment. It’s the main thing she was encouraged to get good at doing.

Women who conform to what’s expected of us don’t do it because they were born with “correct” femininity receptors in their brains. We are all doing our best to survive in a patriarchal society, we are all reacting to the environments of our homes, our social circles, our communities.

We are all born as blank slates, and we make our choices on how to behave based on the consequences we are offered and how prepared we are to accept those consequences. We learn what to expect from certain behaviors from observing what happens to those who commit those behaviors, or from being behaviorally reinforced ourselves.

It is more difficult to behave socially out of line than it is to behave socially in line.

Teenagers are right when they call each other “fake” for performing femininity. Because deep down they know the truth, that such behavior is a performance of a societal role, rather than an expression of genuine humanity.

As children we all paint our faces in a wide variety of ways. When children paint their faces, they are expressing joy and creativity. As we get older, we paint our faces to blend in or to attract positive social attention or to express belonging to a subculture (like goth makeup). Our creativity gets cut up in to bite size pieces to fit in to a social sphere. This doesn’t happen because we are born to behave this way, it happens because of the chain of events of our lives.

No human being is born to exist as subservient or meek, no human being is born for the purpose of serving others. No human being is born to be a sacrifice.

Women are human beings. Every woman and girl is a human being.

Every girl you have looked at and thought to yourself, “she’s one of those girls that are nothing like me” is exactly like you, because she is human, because she is a female human existing in the same world as you, under the same pressures as you, and she is doing her best with what she’s got, just like you.

We are all the “other girls” to someone else because men write the narrative of what womanhood means, and as that is the only narrative offered to us, we learn it. We are indoctrinated in to a role of self hatred–which develops in us a hatred of the class we belong to.

Deep down, every woman’s heart beats with the hope of liberation.